[xaque]

Ok, this is the deal. Me and my fiancé got into a huge fight 3 weeks ago because she was getting private calls on her phone. I said some mean things and she gave my ring back and told me we were over. She moved into our spare bed room, and she hasn't spoken an unsolicited word to me in 3 weeks. At first she was ice cold, and she would at all. If I tried to talk to her she would ignore me. If I tried to call or text she still ignored me. It seem like as time has passed she has thawed just a little bit, and by that I mean very little. The other day I got a dozen of her favorite roses and put them in her room and included. 2 page handwritten letter telling her how I feel. This morning I knocked on her door and asked if we could talk she said no. I knocked again and she opened up and let me in. We talked just a little bit but really didn't get anywhere. Later today when I got out of class, she was @ work, so I texted her she responded.. I texted her a little later, but she didn't respond, and I know she was on her lunch break. This has pretty much been the last three weeks. Both names are on lease but she's still living her when she doesn't have to, which leads me to believe she still cares. So basically what should I do to get her to c that I really want to change for the better and make this work? Also, what should I not do? Why is she playing hot and cold? Either she wants to be with me or not, right?

[Romefalls19]

You can't change for anyone else but yourself and then eventually the people who want to see it will. You very well may have pushed her over the edge. Is this the first time your jealousy has gotten out of hand? The girl can't help who calls her, did she hide the calls from you? Has she given you and inclination on why you shouldn't trust her? She may have realized that if you don't trust her by now then you very well may never trust her and on that grounds a relationship won't work. Look up information on jealousy, go see a counselor and check out some books about the insecurities you are harboring.

It's not a question as if she wants to be with you or not, she has ended it. So for the time being, treat it as that and make the steps to change for yourself to better your life. Here's a quote my counselor told me about jealousy. "Jealousy is the dragon that slays love on the grounds of keeping it alive"

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...do-232198.html
If you haven't done anything to warrant this treatment, and can't leave until the lease is up in September, leave her non communicating arse alone! Be lucky you found out this about her now than later, as with out communications no bond can grow nor issues resolved. Now enjoy yourself, and stop texting her.