[jingo06]

Hai friends

I joined this family with the hope that I will get some valid solutions

My problem is :
At the age of 23 I got married to a person it was a love marriage he is good to me for one year but later we did not have kid due to that or I donot know why he lost his intereset on me he was physically with but mentally with other girls in chat and in mobile all this hurted me more then one day his friend for job sake joined us and we both became a good friend and shared all the problems slowly like I started missing him so much at that time he went to his home for vacation that 10days made w both realize what we both think of each other.
After he returned we had office party on which day we both came back soon to our home and that time he asked me whether I am interested on someone except my huby so that time I thought of not telling him but he asked me so much and I told I loveu and he also accepted it immediately then we both had a good understaning and we both were planning to disclose to all but due to emotional one day we had sex and I got conceived as I got conceived after 7 years of my marriage I donot want to clear it and some how I made my huby feel it is his kid but then the problem started I went to my home for delivery but unfortunately during this time somehow even my huby fried decided not to marry me but I had strong will power that I can get back him so some how I managed to bring him back to me but now the problem he and my huby is working in same office so he tells me to wait till he get a job but meanwhile I donot want to be with my uby because I wam worried if my huby friend will cheat and go again and I lost my love for my huby totally so I want go for divorce and he is accpeting telling he is rectifying his mistake but the mistake I made cannot be rectified and totally I donot want cheat him so suggest what to do?

[N0help4u]

Not sure what you mean. You want to leave and your hubby is okay with that but you do not want to cheat on him but you want to be with this other guy but you are afraid he is going to cheat on you.

[jingo06]

See actually my huby cheated me whaving relation with other girls and spending for them all that I forgive him but now he had crossed the limit so I thought going away from him that time his friend came to help me and we both are ready to marry now and already due to our relationship I got pregnanat and that child was lost due to miscarraige. Now I want take divorce from my huby to marray his friend and one more thing his friend is always postponing saying that he got the job because of my huby and if he comes to know about all this he would take out of job so I feel now I have to do something in short ple suggest me

[JBeaucaire]

I'm so confused, but even if you repeated all that, I would still suggest the same thing.

Stop protecting yourself from the situation. You have to face your husband and simply tell him the truth so he can start getting ready. Tell him you are going to divorce him because while you were having all these problems with him you fell in love with someone else.

It's that simple, I'm afraid. Grownups face the issues, you can't hide from it. Tell him.

[N0help4u]

So you are saying the other guy tells you he still wants to marry you but is afraid it will jeopardize his job because he works with your husband.
Either way, you want to get divorced anyway so why not just get the divorce, get away and get some independence. Then when the other guy sees you are free from your husband and doing good on your own maybe he will see you in a new light and not see you as your husband's wife. Then maybe you can start a fresh new relationship with him and take it from there. What do you have to lose you want away from your husband anyway.

[jingo06]

You now after all your replies I am now taking strun step that I will divorce my husband first so for this I will little of details so that you can suggest me a way

I am an indian working in kabul so if you any lawyers who can help me in online will be nice so that according to my vacation trip to india I will meet him I am from chennai in india so if any of our family know know anybody from chennai kindly help me.