[pinkrose7]

Hi guys what do u think about online dating? Like sites such as eharmony.com/chemistry.com ex.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

It depends on the age of the person. Those sites are not intended for anyone under 18.

I think they are also too often abused by cheating spouses.

I'd rather meet people doing things in real life that I enjoy.

[pinkrose7]

O OK I'm 19 years old and I joined eharmony for 3 months after I broke up with my ex. Of 2 years, I haven't found the love of my life yet but it showed me I can go back out there and meet/talk to new people and I can say I did it once in my life right thank you for your opinions

[danielnoahsmommy]

Met m hubby on match.com. To be honest with you, someone close to me went looking and found him for me. Either way you have to be very careful, meet in public.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Make sure to allow yourself time to heal before engaging in another relationship..

[damaged]

Sometimes I feel like getting on those sites.. lol... Never done it though... you joined eHarmony?. c0ol.. how is it?. do you like it?/.. have you meet anyone?.

[starlite1]

Actually, I know a few people who tried eharmony and really liked it. They are still with there 'matches'.

Down the road, I would like to try it.

[liz28]

My uncle meet his wife on e-harmony, the match makers do their job. But as always we meeting someone online be weary, it took him 3 tries and on the three one he meet his match. One thing about e-harmony verus the other dating sites is that it not free so people tend to take it more seriously when they are paying for something and its not cheap either. Good Luck with your search!

[pinkrose7]

Yea, eharmony is cool, I talked to a few people, of course I'm going to meet them in public I'm not crazy lol but I sometimes still want my ex. I miss him, I mean we still love each other but sometimes he says, "i love u as my friend" and at other times he says, "i love u" and (gives me a kiss on the phone) before he says, "goodnight, sweet dreams, sleep well, ex..." but it's hard when you want someone and they don't want you in the same way you want tell but he's nuts sometimes he acts all strong and tells me were just friends, he calls me his (best friend) but at other times he acts like a boyfriend he tells me (he misses me,he wants to be around me and he's thinking about me, that he loves me, he wants me in his arms, laying next to him watching a movie/tv, he misses my face and my smile,my laugh, my kiss, holding me in his arms when I fell asleep, ex.. ) What's going on with him?? I know he loves me but he's the one who broke up with me in the first place cause he said "that there are things that i need and he can't give me and i deserve better," buh.. buh.. buh.. I think that's some BS, because I think he just won't do what he has to do to be with me and he taking the easy way out!! What do you guys think? U know the funny thing is HE ONLY WANTS ME!! HE DOESN'T WANT EVERYTHING ELSE!! He told me, "HE'S WANTS TO LIVE LIFE IN THE RIGHT!" he also told me, "he doesn't have time for a girlfriend right now but when he does i will be the first girl to know" what is going on with him?? Y is he sending me all these mixed signals?? Other he wants to be with me or not!! (he forcing himself to do the right thing) he doesn't want to string me around while he takes care of his life but if he loves me and I'm th only woman he wants why wouldn't he want to build a life with me?? I'm so confused

[ChihuahuaMomma]

If you want to get over him, release all contact with him. Don't talk to him. AT ALL. I know that can be difficult, next to impossible almost. But do it. Unless you can be that person that is happy for your ex to be dating, then throw them a wedding shower, a baby shower, and be in their wedding. Move on. He already has, that's what he's telling you. He's keeping you on the hook just in case things don't work out in his other endeavors, or simply because he's comfortable with you, and doesn't want to let that go. But someone has to, and it seems it has to be you.

[damaged]

He's not right.. he doesn't want you enough to be with you, but he doesn't let you go so you can be with someone else.. That is being selfish, and you need to let him go... Don't talk to him any more because he has you in the limbo... You can't be with him because he doesn't want to but you can't forget about him because he is always bugging you.. This needs to stop... please stop all contact with this guy... unless you don't mind being like this.. in that case you can do as chihuahuamama said when he finds someone else you can throw them a wedding shower, baby shower or w.e
But why would you stay in this situation?. u deserve so much better than him... Forget about him.. I know its easier said than done, and its even harder when he tells you he misses/loves you.. but actions speak louder than words and to me he is just words.. If he truly loves you why isn't he with you:confused:... Let him go for your own good.. Move 0n..

[Sam DePecan]

Dating Sites? . . . They DEFINITELY work . . . But make them work for you; as opposed to your being drained by them, so to speak. Listen, you can have a horrifying, horrible relationship with the friend of your mother's or someone from Church, or @ School, etc. It's not the Internet's fault if you get zapped by an electronic acquaintance. BTW, I have married my contact . . . We were married last September 15th. We do attend Mass together; so we definitely pray together and we do a lot of stuff together. That's because we are compatible. It's a must. It is really important that the two of you are compatible. Anyway, I met her online. She is from Redondo Beach and I live in San Francisco. Good luck. I hope you do well.

[liz28]

Your confused. Do you want to hung over your ex after he told you what he don't want, and your wants are different from his. If your not over him don't go looking for someone just to get over because it will be wrong to that person. Stop living in past and letting your ex in your life when he want and hoping that he change his mind. Your ex is an ex for a reason so keep it that way. Leave him as part of the past and don't look back. Our minds plays tricks on us by remembering the good times that you share with that person but remember why your broked off in the first place. Be strong and stop having contact with him.

[pinkrose7]

Thank you everyone to tell you guys the truth I don't know what to do you guys are telling me I should cut all contact with him but I still love the guy and I know deep down he still loves me too just by the way he looks at me and by the way he talks to me and just by all the things he does for me but I have some serious thinking to do. One question for damaged why do you say he's selfish the whole reason why he broke up with me is so he can get his life together and he doesn't want to drag me around so he said I need to find someone out there who can give me what I need and deserve that he can't give me but I think that some BS cause like I said if he really wanted to be with me he would step up and stop taking the easy way out I just don't know what to do to tell you the truth if I stop all contact with this guy I would have no one to talk to and another thing is that I know for a fact that he's a good friend, he's there when I need him, when I need someone to talk to and I know he has my back, if I'm in a jam he will help me out and I can't find a true friend like that all of a sudden but I know one thing if he ever had someone else that he was talking to/dating or having relations with I would do everything in my power to make sure he never contacts me again I would cut him off because that would mean he lied to me and I don't need that in my life and friends don't lie to you but that happens I don't know what I'm going to do for right now him and I are taking a month of not seeing each other or talking on the phone for the first week it was fine but he still texts me (telling me he misses his friend and on wed. night he called me saying he misses my voice and laugh that he missed talking to me and that he loves me) what is his problem he's the one who said we needed a month so we can get the friendship going in the right way! I don't get him what's his problem if he feels like this so much why did he break up with me in the first place, and why is he sending all these mixed signals??

[Sam DePecan]

You are obviously STILL in love with him. You are going to always have "mixed-feelings" if you do let him go. That's a fact! You are going to have to tell him up-close-and-personal (eye-to-eye contact) exactly what your feelings are. If you don't do it, then you will always wonder how it would have been if you would have; provided that the relationship between the two of you goes absolutely defunct. Now, that's what it's all about; isn't it? You want to have a pleasing time together and enjoy your relationship all the time, even when you are not exactly together, so to speak. That is normal. So, you have to be the one to make that decision so that you can have peace-of-mind. I have been in situations like that before, but I think that I was younger than you then. The older you are, btw, the worse it is . . . The pain that you feel. That's because when you are too young then you don't have those kinds of "pain nerves" that have to be developed through your lifetime. You want to make the right decisions; of course. It is my personal opinion that you must get ahold of him and tell him that you want to discuss it with him in private. You are going to have a dry mouth and your voice is probably going to quiver when you first start to say something. All of that is normal. If it's not like that, then down deep inside you probably don't really love him, anyway. Thus, your feelings is(are) of self-resentment toward the the whole "love thing" ... As you dont' know enough about it to fully understand it. I bet that it's not like that, though. I bet that you really do love him. I just hope you don't turn your back to it and walk away. BTW, resentment about anything may border on a more serious "inferiority complex". That can be disastrous. It may also be hereditary too. If you do walk away, for whatever reason, then you just might hate yourself for your making that decision on your own; I mean later on in your future. It's your life; it's your future . . . Good luck. I hope you are going to be happy too.