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tucker1605 · May 21, 2008, 04:01 PM

Hi,

My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me a week ago. We talked about moving out and he was even looking for engagement rings. Then his ex started to talk to him when he lost weight and he broke up with me and 5 days later he and her are not an item.

Why?

I know I started to treat him bad and I realized this when I took a step back. I told him about this and he said he just needed time to think ( he isn't one to share feelings and is easliy influanced) so I tried to back off (which didn't work) so I found out now the ex is back.

He said he will think about a 2nd chance if I can respect what he says and also give him space. He is now calling the shots and now I want my things from his place and he won't even let me get those.
He says he misses me but he has lost part of the love he had for me. I asked if he liked his new g/f he didn't say anything and also I asked if he loved her and nothing. Then I asked if he missed me and he said yes.

I want him back and I want to show I can do this (oh I'm on meds too and I stopped taking some right when this all started) but I want his g/f to stop telling him what to do.

Please help

talaniman · May 21, 2008, 06:28 PM

Let him think then, as he has two females telling him what he should do. Back off! What are the meds for, since you mentioned them.

tucker1605 · May 22, 2008, 12:18 PM

I am on b12 for b12 animea and also anti depressents. I stopped taking the b12.
Im trying to back off. He wants to see me sat but he said he would let me know sat morning.
Last night a friend of ours sent him an email yelling at him. I told him not to but he did, my ex responded back angry (who wouldn't be) at him. I sent the ex an email explaining that I told them not to and to leave him alone. I don't expect an email back it was just a coursity email, I do respect he needs the space.

Do I even have a chance? Do you think I will see him Saturday?

talaniman · May 23, 2008, 04:13 PM

Looks like a wait and see thing, if that's what you want.

tucker1605 · May 23, 2008, 07:29 PM

It is what I want he just changed as soon as he started to see this person, it just hurts a lot. I have friends but they live far away and my parents aren't the kind to give hugs and say it will be OK. They think he is just going through a phase and that it won't last with her, they say "he broke up with her for a reason, and it will take time for him to start talking to you again"

talaniman · May 23, 2008, 07:44 PM

You have all your hopes on this one guy who is with someone else. Not good. You need a more balanced life, with more things in it besides him. I suggest you get one. Sorry to be harsh here, but its you making yourself miserable while he is having a good time.

tucker1605 · May 23, 2008, 08:07 PM

I had a balanced life but I've had some bad luck. Im trying to just let him be and do stuff at home that I haven't gotten around to and also helping out my parents. Work is hard but that is done in a month I think once that is done I can really start to feel better, I haven't felt great since jan and now this just adds to it. Just got to make myself happy again and enjoy life.
I just wanted to know why he said he would think about giving me another chance if I could prove I can respect him? He just being nice? And is he with his ex just because its convient?

talaniman · May 24, 2008, 03:39 AM

He just being nice?
Nice?? There is nothing nice about being dumped for someone else.
And is he with his ex just because its convient?
You'll never know but its obvious he could handle what you were doing so he left. It will hurt for a while, it always does, and that goes for everyone. It will get better, so stop dwelling on it, and chose a better path.

tucker1605 · May 24, 2008, 02:16 PM

Well I got this email last night

That's Ok, I just assumed that he got his info from either your note or from your Facebook status. Especially when he went after me for not giving you your stuff sounded like that might have stemmed from the note where you said you want your stuff back or the status where you said something similar to "You cold hearted bastard just give me my stuff back".

Just let me know what you want packed up, also let me know how much the Oakley stuff was and the mothers day stuff as well so I can reimburse you for it.

Maybe we shouldn't see each other Saturday, however I am leaving the "Go our own way" up to you. Also thank you for supporting my weight loss, though I haven't kept up with it lately. Slipped a couple times and went to Wendies and had some pretty bad stuff "Classic Triples" boo.

Sure thing I am going to have to make a copy of our corporate disk at work because I can't seem to find mine. Then we can get you all setup with XP again :)

As mentioned previously you can keep the laptop, I know you use it a lot. Go outside and use it in the summer out on the deck and what not and I have no intention of taking that accessibility away from you.

I think I managed to kill them, at least the one area in the tree where they seemed to be resident. I used a high concentration of wasp killing spray and they seemed to peel off the tree, curl up and die. Though I didn't treat the whole tree so I am not sure how much they spread throughout the tree when they are just in their caterpillar state.

I will give you a call tomorrow.

**it was a nice email and it sounded like him being his normalself without the newbie being there*** I knew he wasn't going to call and so I went about my day like normal :D

1lastkissb4ugo · May 24, 2008, 02:24 PM

Woah your saying that he has a current g.f. and also he's missing you? You have no idea what goes on between him and the other girl! If he wanted you he would dump the other girl and head for you! Maybe you should stay off the dating market for awhile and let nature work into things. Well I wish you good luck in your problems in life.

tucker1605 · May 24, 2008, 03:15 PM

Yea my bro and my other bro's g/f said just to give the space and let things work themselves out. Yeah has a new g/f after 4 days. I can't date anytime soon it makes my tummy turn thinking of doing anything with anyone else.
Now I'm trying to learn from my mistakes and figure out me :D

tucker1605 · May 25, 2008, 09:09 AM

OK so he called me last night. We talked for 4 HOURS! He was suppost to have a date with his g/f but he ditched her and talked to me. It was the most amazing talk ever we caught up talked about music etc. We both agreed we missed talking like that and the last time we did that was when we first started dating. I am going up to his place next Saturday and we are going for a very long walk together to again just talk. I can't believe how much I missed just talking it was the best night I had in awhile. What does this all mean though?