[dudeneedsadvice]

My ex and I talked on the phone without anyone else on the line for the 1st time yesterday after I called, left a voicemail, and she called me back.

She had called me about Valentine's Day after not talking to me at all for 6 months. Then I tried to call her after that and she ignored me that 1 time, but she called me a few times with her cousin on her end and she pratically was mute, so a week of no calls I didn't call her again until just yesterday.

After about 10 mintues or so her cousin called her while we were talking and she jumped him into the call with "3-way calling". We were all laughing like old times until she said she was going to call up her friend. Her cousin asked who? And she said, "Forget it, I don't want to waste my cell phone minutes on a STRAIGHT girl".

We had broke up after 2 years because she left me for a lesbian (I'm a guy) she was working with. She said she NEVER wanted to talk to me again after the breakup because it was a really bad breakup. I told her I couldn't be just friends with her all along if we ever broke up.

I guess the girl she left me for rejected her and she and I are both single and have been. She works at a new factory at a different job now, away from that other girl.

I had thought I wouldn't ever talk with her again or see her (we live 1/2hour away) so I thought I was over her. She is an introverted person in that she meets few new people. She should know I don't want to just be friends but that's what I have been acting as.

I've made my mind up:
I DO for sure want her back because we were great together.

What should/shouldn't I do to get her back?

[fredg]

Hi, dude,
Of course, this is your decision as to what to do.
My own opinion is to move on with your life. Who knows if she will, sometime later, seek out another same-sex relationship. I am sure everyone at her new job isn't married.
If you really love this girl, it will start all over again, with things this time, if it doesn't work out, much, much worse on you.

[Wildcat21]

What's up wit this cousin thing. The cousin shouldn't even be involved. I would tell that cousin to go to a deep dark place and stay out my business. That's one of your big problems. Tell the cousin to go to hel land get off the phone.

[Fr_Chuck]

It is your life but ex's are ex's for a reason, and if she just broke up with someone, she most likely was just remembering some good times and wanted to call. But all the problems that caused you to break up has not been solved. First you need to find out which way he is looking, if she is wanting another women, then you are not even in the running.

All you can do is call her and talk and do so several times and see if any old spark comes back.

But I wll agree with the first person, you really need to move on and not live in or want the past back.