[sammi01]

I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and up until about 4-5 months ago everything was fine we got along fine he always loved been around me he was really really sweet he was kind of like the perfect man he's 21 and then 1 night sum1 came to his flat and asked us 2 go to a party up his flat he lives on the next floor my boyfriend didn't really want 2 go because we were watching a film in bed but I said come on we just go see how it is and then since that night this mate of his just never stopped cummin down the flat and my boyfriend just really changed he no longer wanted 2 spend time with me whenever I spoke to him he was just saying why you in a mood or your always miserable and he started trying 2 take charge saying he wore the trousers in the relationship he was always out with him lying to me about where he was an just expected me 2 sit an wait for him in his flat all day an he's just got a lot worse I've tried talking to him about it but he isn't intrested I've split up with him about 12 times since then but always got bk with him now he's always lyin to me I can't believe anything he says I'm not even sure if he loves me anymore he doesn't act like he does but I found out hed lyed to me again today and decided id had enough an told him it was over and went home I heard he was up his mates crying 4 an hour after I left so I rang him 2 see if he was OK n he said they were going out on a pub crawl for the night we said wed meet up 2moz and talk and he kept ringing me all night but he sounded fine happy but he's saying he want us 2 get bk 2getha and I just don't no if its worth it I don't think he will change he's said it 2 many times and hasn't can you help thanks

[BiWiccanAndProud]

Look the man in the eye and tell him, I will gladly get back with you... when you PROVE to me you are going to change. You have told me twice you will and you haven't. Ever since that party you aren't the same.

Go into detail of how he was and how he is now and tell him SAYING he will change is not enough anymore.

And just to throw it out there... and this always gets a guy a thinking... he may well wear the pants in the relationship... but YOU control the zipper ^.~ you can either take care of what's in the pants or trap it in the zipper.

[Emm Lura]

Yes you are absolutely correct! Great response!