[enlighten_me]

They say the harder you try, the more clingy/needy you appear

So the best way to make yourself more desirable to the opposite sex is by remaining mysterious, aloof and independent

But how can you ever get close to anyone if you maintain this distance?

I guess my friend considers me to be pretty clingy/needy (he's also a guy that I like but I have not told him about it)... but we don't get to see each other as often as we used to and I'm just scared of drifting apart and I am having trouble letting go

I guess if he doesn't care, then there's no point in trying, is there?

[JFFTidus]

Well that's not totally true. If you try to stay away too much it can show that your completely not interested. Instead of showing your mysterious, aloof and independent you could look like you have issues. So just hang out and have fun as a friend. And some friendly flirtation never hurt.

[enlighten_me]

I think he's grown tired of me already... he doesn't even make an effort to hang out anymore... I've been trying to get him to do things together, but he's just not interested even though we don't get to see each other much anymore... we still talk online all the time but I usually have to initiate conversation... I think we've drifted apart already and it makes me sad

This tends to happen to me with most friendships... they just drift apart even though we didn't have any fights... I try very hard to maintain friendships with the people I care the most... maybe I'm just too boring and not interesting enough or I try too hard... don't know what I've done wrong

And I don't mean mysterious, aloof and independent to the point of extreme... but I guess I've been too open to him as an attempt to get close to him and hope that he would do the same... so I guess I should be less revealing about myself, but I'm afraid that this would put distance between us