[nothingmore21]

Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. He lived in upper state PA and i lived in DE. so we were 1 hour apart. About 1 year ago, i moved up in PA and we got a apartment together. So i moved my whole life for him. i was thinking were going to be together for a long time, maybe for marriage in the future. Since he turned 21 (about 2 years ago) his friend from work party's heavily. He often invites my boyfriend to go out for the night in Philadelphia's night life. that means strip clubs, bars and night clubs. When he turned 21, it wasn't that often he goes out with his friend from work, but recently hes been going out about 2-3 times a month. When he comes home, its about 3-4 am. i think its weird for a relationship to go through with this situation. I started to get upset because he's not communicating with me well, for example he turns it around and all the sudden, i'm controlling. but i'm expressing my feelings. i dont think hes doing anything behind my back (i sure hope not) but hes one of those types of men who can't say no to his friends. the way he tells his friends saying that he needs to ask me if he can go out, as if i am his mother!! so now most of his friends think im controlling him. Do you think thats wrong for him to do that to me!!?? It feels like im home alone often, and he just says its guys night out. Please help me with some advice on what i should do?? :(

[iralf02]

Honey going out 3-4 times a month is nothing! You need to built trust with him, he's coming home to you isn't he. Maybe you should get your girlfriends together and start going out yourself. You're young why waste it! He's not doing anything wrong he's enjoying his 20s and you should too.