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ilovcali · Oct 19, 2007, 09:25 AM

Here are the steps:

1. WIN BACK YOURSELF

He/She left you, dejected, sad, with a huge void in your life. Basically you are flooded with all this extra time on your hands now. Time which everyone spends moping, crying, missing, feeling like crap. So the first thing to do, do WHATEVER IT TAKES to fill the void. STOP FEELING LIKE CRAP. No one wants to date CRAP. It's YOUR JOB to stop feeling like crap. Only YOU can help yourself.

2. FEEL THE PAIN

It's okay. Break-ups suck. There is pain involved. Don't avoid it. FACE IT. It's part of life. Sometimes life's ire, sometimes life's not. Can't run from the bad and only expect the good. GET OVER IT your own way, in your OWN TIMELINE. DO NOT EXPECT THE EX TO HELP. It's your ex. Ex them COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR LIFE. Maybe you just don't want to be around people because you feel like crap. Ok. Go for a drive, go to the gym, go for a jog. Don't put pressure on yourself to GET OVER IT. You will, at your own pace. Just keep chugging along. IT GETS BETTER.

3. I WANT TO CALL/SEE THE EX

NO, you really don't. They suck. They left you. THEY ARE WHY YOU FEEL LIKE CRAP. WHAT THE EX DID WAS NOT NICE. IT WAS A NASTY THING TO DO. Did you cheat on them, did you treat them badly? No? Well then, IT IS THEM AND NOT YOU! You want to date someone who is similar to you right? Would you just up and leave someone? No? Well, then you WERE DATING THE WRONG PERSON. Good riddance! THEIR PERSONALITY IS NOT LIKE YOURS. And what's the most important thing in relationships? PERSONALITY'S WHICH BLEND. And if you did treat your ex badly, OK, we make mistakes, and we learn. But THEY ARE THE EX. EX THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE.

4. WILL I EVER MET SOMEONE AGAIN

No you won't. Oh wait, that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Of course you will. Why wouldn't you? You met the EX somehow right? But you won't meet anyone new until you take care of STEP 1.

5. I JUST SAW THE EX, AND I DIDN'T CARE, I'M ME AGAIN

Sweet. And you shouldn't care anymore. It's NOT about winning them back. It's all about STEP 1-4. That's what matters, not THE EX. So yeah, you PROBABLY WON'T win him/her back. But damn, that hot chick/dude at school/work/gym was giving you the eye. And now you're back to being the total stud/debutante you were BEFORE you met the ex. FEELS GOOD doesn't it? Let's see if the hot chick/dude wants to go out.

It does happen this way. Forget about winning them back. The future is more interesting then the past. But you won't see the future, if you keep looking back.

--Cali

lmnotok · Oct 19, 2007, 09:49 AM

Oh yeah, this is the best thing we should do. Luckily, I did it and felt good

needofhelp · Oct 19, 2007, 10:17 AM

I think the title is off. Maybe it should be "The total guide to winning back your life"

ilovcali · Oct 19, 2007, 10:20 AM

More people will read this title. It's what people want to know. That's the hope anyway.

--Cali

chris28 · Oct 19, 2007, 10:50 AM

Yea that makes a lot of sense, My ex broke up with me a little nmore than 3 weeks ago and it sucks but I've been doing a lot to keep buisy and let me tell you its works. I do look back every now and again and it gets me sad at times like today I am a little down but I don't feel like breaking down its just harder 1 hour than another but it goes and comes... So I gues I am following the list to the best of my abilities and it does work!!