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    reclaimurlife Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 16, 2007, 09:34 AM
    Obsessive and overprotective
    I've been in a relationship for the past two years.. and I really love the guy a lot.. but lately I have noticed that I am turning into this overprotective person... im really worried about what he is doing, I'm devastated when he gets hurt, I end up yelling at him for not taking care of himself when I'm not with him... my biggest fear is that he should not start hating me because of this... if this goes on a while, he'll start getting irritated about it and might not want to talk to me anymore... im really scared... really really scared... but I'm not able to stop myself from doing it because I care about him a lot and I can't take it if something happens to him... im lost!!
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    Oct 16, 2007, 12:24 PM
    Sometimes you can care to the point you smother. Try rephrasing things so they don't come off as controlling to something more light hearted, like if he hurts himself when you aren't around say something like aha if only I could be your guardian angel. 0r hmmm you really shouldn't hurt my (his name) like that. That way you can say something of concern and at the same time and not sound like you are trying to run his life.
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    Sep 2, 2012, 05:40 PM
    I think you need to talk to him.about how your feeling and importantly how HE feela about it. Just try n find out why you get paranoid and just try to keep yourself occupied and randomly tell him... Oh I miss you.. I love you.. show him you care in a nice way not a freaky way.
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    Sep 2, 2012, 06:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by pak1234 View Post
    I think you need to talk to him.about how your feeling and importantly how HE feela about it. Just try n find out why you get paranoid and just try to keep yourself occupied and randomly tell him... Oh i miss you.. I love you.. show him you care in a nice way not a freaky way.

    This is from 2007 - please keep an eye on the dates. This person has never been back.
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    Sep 2, 2012, 06:49 PM
    I'm more concerned at your obsession to try and take care of him. You're being a bit selfish don't you think? This isn't about how much you love him but of how much you don't want something to happen to him and that's selfish.

    Think about that one.
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