[HaRLoS]

I think my boyfriend only wants me around for sex.

He seems to think that he can go out and do drugs(used to) and I shouldn't be mad, keeping in mind I'm against them and he never did them we we started dating. He is never home when he says he will be, PROMISES he will be. And once again exspects me not to be mad.

I'm afraid that if I keep forgiving him for these incidents than it will just keep happening.

We never talk about anything serious, ever. Whenever I try he says I keep repeating myself, even though I have not finished explaining my points, therefore if he is going to decide he does not want to talk about it that day, I feel the need to bring it up the next. Is that unreasonable? I don't think so.

If I'm upset or we're fighting, he chooses sleep over me when he is tired, shouldn't fixing our relationsip be on his top priorities list? Tired or not? I think so. He works at eight, I work at 7, but I'm willing to stay up to try anf fix it when the problem begins. And if we don't talk about it than I spend the whole night thinking about it and don't get a good sleep. I feel like I'm the only one in my relationship. The only time I ever feel close to him is when we are having sex, it's the only time I feel emotionally attached, not because I'm only in ti for the sex, but because we never talk or communicate in any other way.

Now I'm not a relationship genious but I always thought in a relationship you need to connect on all levels not just sexual. I feel very insignifigant and neglected by his emotions and attitude towards our relationship.

We get along great, I'm not complaining about that, but I need more than just a sexual connection and he can't seem to understand that no matter what I say to him.

I have told him that I think he doesn't even want a relationship, just a sex friend. But he keep assuring me that is not true. How can I believe this from him when he is doing nothing to show me he wants more from our relationship than just sex. He says he loves me, I'm beginning to think he loves my sex, not me as a person.

I really need some advice on that to do about this.

To call it quits and find someone who actually wants a serious relationship with a deeper communication. Or find another method of trying to talk to him about how I feel.

[enigmagnetic]

"I'm afraid that if i keep forgiving him for these incidents than it will just keep happening. "

You've answered your own question. Don't call it quits right away if you love him but ask for a break and separate. Plenty of guys out there for you chicka anyway. But if you care for him see if he changes. It's the only way he will.