[LeafCan]

Hi guys, please help me, please. I am hopeless now... sorry it is kind of a long story

I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 years in Canada. She is 21 and I am 25. Recently we moved to Hong Kong. We are both trying to adapt the new environment which is totally different from Canada. Too much pressure all around. We argued a lot. However, we were still good. Just 2-3 weeks ago, everything seems fine to me. She is going to a Law school this sept and I know she is feeling nervous and having so much problems studying. Last Sunday (Sept 9th), we had a really big argument. She said she is facing a lot of pressure and as a result she asked for a week break. However, I didn't listen and still called her. She seemed like OK and chated quite a bit on Tuesday(11th). On friday(14th), I asked her to go out on Saturday and she said Yes. Don't know what we then talked about, we ran into big argument again. We didn't talk on Saturday. On Sunday(16th), she said she need a 3 months break to think about our problems (! ) and I couldn't convince her to change her mind. Suddenly I heard from one of her friend that my girlfriend told her there is a guy who is a HKese keep on calling her last 2 weeks and saying all the sweet things to her and ask her to go out. Damnit that she did think about going out with him. Very fortunately, she decided not to do so at the end. I phoned my girlfriend and asked her about it. She said she already made the choice of not going out with that guy and she apologized for not telling me. She said she won't like him. I guess it is because we are having too many problems lately. I was so sad and I think about why we end up like this. I found out that I really gave her too much problems and always have bad temper and not being considerate all the time ><. So on monday(17th), I called her again, she still pick up the phone normally and we chatted. On tuesday(18th), I phoned her again and chat normal. I tried to ask her out. She first said yes and then hestiated, saying it depends. On Wed (yesterday), I phoned her a few times, first talking normal stuffs then I asked her to go out on Thursday. She said depends again. I asked whether we can be back to nromal again. She then said that actually she is still not feeling comfortable talking with me. She really wants a 3 months break. She said maximum is 3 months but she will called me if she made some decision earlier. I asked is it because of that guy. She said No No No... it is nth to do with him and she won't talk to him anymore and even (worst case) we didn't work it out at the end, she won't start another relationship so soon for sure. She is really confused and want to cool off. I asked if she really wants to break up and use this as an alternative way. She said No again. I told her if she really want to break up, please tell me now. She said she just wants a break. I was so sad but said "OK, but I will get rid of all my bad stuffs for sure and I will wait for you. I promised you. I will make your the most fortunate girl in the world. Please let me protect and take care of you again" She said "I will try to calm and think about our problems. Meanwhile, you can improve"...

Anyway, it hurts and I really really regret ><. Please tell me what to do. I am thinking of letting her to cool off a bit till next week and try contact her again with a hand-drawn card. I really love my girlfriend. She is a really really nice girl. I promise I will improve and change the way I treated her before. I kind of took it for granted after 4 years. She asked for a 3 months break. Should I contact her next week? I am afraid if no contact for too long, the chance of getting back is damn low... please tell me what to do >< PLEASE HELP ME GUYS. I hope it is not too long to realize I was an fuking a$$hole. I should have treasure her more ><

Is it the end of it?? :(

[inorkram]

Hi guys, please help me, please. I am hopeless now....sorry it is kinda a long story

I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 years in Canada. She is 21 and I am 25. Recently we moved to Hong Kong. We are both trying to adapt the new environment which is totally different from Canada. Too much pressure all around. We argued alot. However, we were still good. Just 2-3 weeks ago, everything seems fine to me. She is going to a Law school this sept and i know she is feeling nervous and having so much problems studying. Last Sunday (Sept 9th), we had a really big arguement. She said she is facing alot of pressure and as a result she asked for a week break. However, i didn't listen and still called her. She seemed like ok and chated quite a bit on Tuesday(11th). On friday(14th), i asked her to go out on saturday and she said Yes. Don't know what we then talked about, we ran into big arguement again. We didn't talk on saturday. On Sunday(16th), she said she need a 3 months break to think about our problems (!!) and I couldn't convince her to change her mind. Suddenly I heard from one of her friend that my gf told her there is a guy who is a HKese keep on calling her last 2 weeks and saying all the sweet things to her and ask her to go out. damnit that she did think about going out with him. Very fortunately, she decided not to do so at the end. I phoned my gf and asked her about it. She said she already made the choice of not going out with that guy and she apologized for not telling me. She said she won't like him. I guess it is because we are having too many problems lately. I was so sad and i think about why we end up like this. I found out that I really gave her too much problems and always have bad temper and not being considerate all the time ><. So on monday(17th), I called her again, she still pick up the phone normally and we chatted. On tuesday(18th), i phoned her again and chat normal. I tried to ask her out. She first said yes and then hestiated, saying it depends. On Wed (yesterday), I phoned her a few times, first talking normal stuffs then i asked her to go out on Thursday. She said depends again. I asked whether we can be back to nromal again. She then said that actually she is still not feeling comfortable talking with me. She really wants a 3 months break. She said maximum is 3 months but she will called me if she made some decision earlier. I asked is it because of that guy. She said No No No......it is nth to do with him and she won't talk to him anymore and even (worst case) we didn't work it out at the end, she won't start another relationship so soon for sure. She is really confused and wanna cool off. I asked if she really wants to break up and use this as an alternative way. She said No again. I told her if she really want to break up, please tell me now. She said she just wants a break. I was so sad but said "OK, but I will get rid of all my bad stuffs for sure and I will wait for you. I promised you. I will make your the most fortunate girl in the world. Please let me protect and take care of you again" She said "I will try to calm and think about our problems. Meanwhile, you can improve"......

Anyways, it hurts and I really really regret ><. Please tell me what to do. I am thinking of letting her to cool off a bit till next week and try contact her again with a hand-drawn card. I really love my gf. She is a really really nice girl. I promise i will improve and change the way i treated her b4. I kinda took it for granted after 4 years. She asked for a 3 months break. Should I contact her next week? I am afraid if no contact for too long, the chance of getting back is damn low....please tell me what to do >< PLEASE HELP ME GUYS. i hope it is not too long to realize i was an fuking a$$hole. I should have treasure her more ><

Is it the end of it????? :(

Just at least try to give her a break

[Lostinlove]

You know what dude this happen to me last week and I think me and you are so freaking alike is not even funny. My girl left me to and I haven't talked to her for almost a week. When she said she needed a break I just kept calling her bugging her and she got really annoyed. So just let her go try to stop thinking about her, take the time to better yourself. If you and her are meant to be she'll come back. Anyway yea just give her, her time and don't annoy her with your call it just going to get her mad.

[ilovcali]

If someone who was not your girlfriend asked you to leave them alone would you? I hope you would. And if you persisted on bugging them, eventually they'd get pissed off at you and probably end up really resenting you.

Your girlfriend is like any other person in the world. And she has asked you to leave her alone. So LEAVE HER ALONE. Don't bug her, because the more you do, the more likely she will get pissed off and resent you.

Treat the 3 months as a BREAK-UP. A "break" is usually a break-up regardless of what she is saying to you. Improve, STAY BUSY and LEAVE HER ALONE.

--Cali

[LeafCan]

An update on this one

2 weeks after this, my girlfriend and I had a talk last night. She said she can't control herself not to talk to me at all. She said I should call her and she ask me whether she can call me or not. I said "yes, if you really want talk with me. I will be there for you always." I have also hint that I am trying to get rid of all the bad things I have before (like how bad I treated her).

Seems like she remembers all the good stuffs we did before and we had a fun chat last night. I didn't ask her whether we can get back together now. I don't want to force her to make a decision now.

Btw, I am sure in these 2 weeks, she didn't go out with another guy. She is freaking busy studying at home. So it is not like she tried to go out with another guy and dislike him and come back.

Anyway, is it a good sign? What should I do next?