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wiseduck · Aug 9, 2007, 12:22 AM

This last June I picked up the phone and called a friend I went to high school with... I literally hadn’t seen or spoken to her for 12 years. We went out for drinks and since then we’ve been spending time together at least once a week (maybe a little less), having dinner together and things like that. I recently told her that I really like her and asked if there’s any chance that maybe she felt the same... here’s what she wrote back to me in an email...

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I am still a little bent out of shape from the last break up (which was in May) and I am probably not ready for any type of commitment right now. I know that we don’t know one another that well, but I do enjoy spending time with you. So for now, I would just like to enjoy one another’s company and get to know one another better. If all goes well, I may be in a better place to like someone and be in a committed relationship.

But you don’t have to be sorry for asking that question or wanting an answer. I think that you deserve to have an honest answer and that is really the best insight that I can give you right now. As you know, life goes in crazy directions all of the time and perhaps things could change tomorrow.

Well, let me know what you are thinking about my thoughts and your thoughts and maybe we will come to some type of understanding.

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I wrote her back telling her I understand and said that for now I’ll just take her last email as a solid "maybe". All that was about 2 weeks ago.

Since then we’ve had dinner together twice (once at her house and once at mine) and recently she’s started calling me almost on a daily basis but we haven’t spoken a word further about a possible relationship.

Based on the response she sent me and 2 weeks ago, the dinners since then, the phone calls, etc... I really don’t know what do at this point and I’ve been trying to gauge just what "exactly" is going on here. I’ve picked apart her email trying to read between the lines but I’m still unsure of how she feels.

So my question is... should I just relax, not make any moves, play it cool and wait it out... see what happens? Or possibly take my chances and attempt to kiss her goodnight the next time I’m with her? Something else entirely?

I don’t want to rush her and I’ll wait as long as it takes... but the bottom line is that I’m completely in love with this girl.

talaniman · Aug 9, 2007, 08:57 AM

THREE months is not a lot of time dude, and your still at the part where your supposed to have fun, while you get to know each other. Relax and be patient and enjoy each other, and if she is comfortable with you then you'll know. There is no hurry. As far as a goodnight kiss??

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s_cianci · Aug 9, 2007, 10:05 AM

Just keep doing exactly what you've been doing. Continue to see her and enjoy her company but with no serious talk about any kind of commitment or relationship. She was very honest and forthright with you and actually sounds like a pretty together kind of woman. You don't want to blow it, so please understand that trying to push things with her will blow it.

Dennis777 · Aug 9, 2007, 10:09 AM

Hello.

Relax and enjoy what you have. Any time you try to push a relationship it never works, if you let it grow on its own then you will have a long term relationship that will make you both happy. Just make sure you be yourself, if she falls in Love with the real you great but if your acting like the person you think she wants you to be she will fall in Love with a fake you that will never last.

Good Luck
Dennis777