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    zg100 Posts: 9, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 18, 2007, 01:11 PM
    She doesn't trust me!
    My girlfriend doesn't trust me.
    She thinks I'm going to cheat on her.
    She hasn't confronted me about it, but instead she went to her friends and asked them to spy on me and have another friend flirt with me.
    What should I do.
    If I tell her about me knowing she might get mad.
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    Jun 18, 2007, 01:13 PM
    Have a talk with her about this. Trust is a big issue in a serious relationship, and if she goes on not trusting you it will eventually break you apart. Just reassure her that she has nothing to worry about and she is the only one for you :)
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    Jun 18, 2007, 01:24 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by zg100
    My girlfriend doesnt trust me.
    she thinks im gonna cheat on her.
    Sounds like she has been burned before or you may have given her an reason to doubt you.
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    Jun 18, 2007, 03:49 PM
    This is no way to enjoy a relationship. She needs to get over her problem before getting involved. I wouldn't care how mad she got, by confronting her about playing stupid games. She has too much baggage to enjoy so see you!
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    Jun 18, 2007, 04:35 PM
    She will trust you... be patient... Reassure her.. talk to her and let her say what she wants to say... but you don't have to say anything when she is speaking. Then explain. Lot of people hate to give expalanations and there the communication gap widens which is irrepairable. Let this not happen here. Hearing someone out... helps the other. There has to be a reason why she is feeling that way, could be her past r/s, certain behaviour on your part or whatever, don't get discouraged... when we love someone too much, we tend to be jealous, possessive and overreactive. Try and if she still doesn't understand, let her know that you would like to give her time and then maintain a distance for awhile... that might help too... later... good luck
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    Jun 18, 2007, 05:34 PM
    It sounds like this girl may be really young, you didn't say your ages. If she is, she is probably overwhelmed at how she feels about you and scared to loose you-which is normal of a teenage girl, if she is a grown woman, however... RUN you don't need that kind of mistrust
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    Jun 18, 2007, 06:17 PM
    :) Unless you gave your girlfriend grounds to suspect you were being dishonest the fact she tested you is completely innapropriate and says far more about her insecurities, you should not confront her but you definitely discuss this with her like an adult, as a relationship is nothing without trust. The line "I trust you but I dont trust Jo Bloggs" means I don't trust you as someone can throw themselves at you but it is your choice as to how to respond. There is a song from the nineties from a band called Savage Garden which has the line "I believe trust is more important than monogamy" which is true because it does not matter if you are not cheating if the person you are with does not believe you ar faithul. Good luck with it.

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