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    #1

    Oct 13, 2009, 07:24 PM
    Man beater?


    I honestly have no clue what is wrong with me. When I get in bad moods or have crappy days, I tend to beat the live out of my boyfriend.. I haven't the slightest idea why. At first I will just annoy and aggervate him, then he starts to get pissed off, after I get a rise out of him, I start hitting and punching and kicking. Anything I can do to hurt him.. I seriously think I have a problem. Am I bi-polar? Should I be medicated? I seriously don't think he can take anymore of it. And I really hate hurting him the way I do. I don't want to loose him because I can't control myself..
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    Oct 13, 2009, 07:27 PM

    Yes there is something wrong with you and if you don't want to lose your BF go and see your Doctor so he can get you some help.
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    #3

    Oct 13, 2009, 07:38 PM

    What do I say?
    And thanks for being so blunt about it. :P
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    Oct 13, 2009, 07:46 PM

    You tell him exactly what happens , he'll then analyze it depending on the circumstances you tell him.

    Sorry if I came across as blunt , wasn't meant that way.
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    Oct 13, 2009, 07:48 PM

    Its all right..
    I'm a little embarrassed to tell my doctor that I beat my boyfriend...
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    Oct 13, 2009, 07:53 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by kendraroo2010 View Post
    its alright..
    im a little embarrassed to tell my doctor that i beat my boyfriend...
    Better than losing your BF ;)

    And don't worry , your Dr will have seen it all before.
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    #7

    Oct 13, 2009, 08:16 PM

    Your right. But which doctor do I go to.
    I just found out a couple days ago there is a doctor for everything.. haha
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    #8

    Oct 13, 2009, 08:19 PM

    Should be combined with this - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/childr...ml#post2030206

    Note that OP is 17.
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    Oct 13, 2009, 08:20 PM

    If you go to your Local GP he can either diagnose you or refer you to someone who can.
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    #10

    Oct 13, 2009, 08:21 PM

    I'm confused.
    Sorry. I don't understand.
    Are they related?
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    Oct 13, 2009, 08:33 PM

    You're an abuser, so yes, you have a problem.

    You beat your boyfriend. You say you don't want to but that doesn't make you stop. You're abusive and your boyfriend should leave, just like anyone else that's being abused.

    You need to get help. That help is up to you. A doctor is your first step, then a psychiatrist.

    Either way, your boyfriend should move on at this point, at least until you learn to control yourself.
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    Oct 13, 2009, 08:36 PM

    I really don't want to loose him.. I really just started doing this recently.. most of the time I just want to play around.. but it gets out of control wayyyy too fast..
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    Oct 13, 2009, 08:38 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by kendraroo2010 View Post
    i really dont want to loose him.. i really just started doing this recently.. most of the time i just want to play around.. but it gets out of control wayyyy too fast..

    Which is why you need to go to your Dr before you do.

    At least your aware of your problem , now you just need to do something about it.
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    #14

    Oct 13, 2009, 08:40 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by kendraroo2010 View Post
    i really dont want to loose him.. i really just started doing this recently.. most of the time i just want to play around.. but it gets out of control wayyyy too fast..
    I've heard this before.

    It's the same as when my boyfriend smashed my head into a windshield and then told me he was sorry, he didn't want to loose me, he was just playing around and it got out of control. He promises he'll never do it again, blah, blah, blah, blah.

    You need help. Right now, he needs to be away from you because you've admitted that you can't stop. If you can't stop then you won't, until you get help.

    This is not about you anymore, it's about him and the fact that he doesn't deserve to be treated like this.
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    Oct 13, 2009, 08:46 PM

    Yeah. I will talk to him about it tonight and see if it helps any. Maybe we just need some space.
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    #16

    Oct 13, 2009, 09:00 PM

    Go to a psychiatrist also he may help you out.
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    #17

    Oct 19, 2009, 10:30 PM

    Its all right he left, and I'm not really worried about it anymore.
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    Oct 19, 2009, 10:38 PM
    Hello K,

    That still doesn't change the fact that you still need help. It doesn't matter if you and your boyfriend already broke up, what about when you start to date a new guy? You will just continue to do it no matter who you are with! My advice is that you still get help from a doctor.. Good luck.
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    #19

    Oct 19, 2009, 10:41 PM

    You should still seek some help, or you will probably do this again. You may not see it this way, but your dangerously out of control.
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    #20

    Oct 21, 2009, 09:49 PM

    I think I just need to stay away from boys.. I think ill try a different approch.
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