[Cutejess2407]

I have been having feelings for my male best friend recently.
We met at school when I was having some problems with my life; he listened to me and was good to me.
I also helped him with some personal problems too.

Last month I went to the year 12 formal with him (as a friend) and while I was there with him; he was talking to me and cheering me up (because I was feeling down) but when I got home that night- I felt like I missed him. It was really weird and I don't know why I started feeling that way.
We have flirted with each other and he said that I'm attractive but I really like him.
He also said that when he first saw me; he thought that I was beautiful and he also said that he thought that he was too ugly for there to be any chance with me. He's not ugly; he's actually really cute.

I haven't actually told him that I like him but I have hinted and asked questions- like for example I asked him "if i asked you out, what would you say" and he said no because we are best friends and that he was still getting over his crush.
He also said that he fantasised about going out with me one time but snapped out of it because he wouldn't have a chance
He also said that if we weren't best friends; he would go out with me.
I'm really confused; I'm getting mixed messages- does he like me or think of me as a best friend? Please help me!
Oh and by the way he's 18 and I'm 16 if that helps

[StaticFX]

Yes he likes you. I will take a guess that he is really genuine about your friendship and does worry that it will be ruined. BUT, let me tell you... being best friends first will make a HUGE difference in the relationship...

Example. When I was young I played with this girl who lived across the street from me.. we became best friends... later.. we dated... after that.. we moved in together.. after that.. we got married.. bought a house.. had a son... and now.. 30.. yes 30 years later we are still together. I was 8 years old when we met. :)

REALLY think about it... do you want to date him? If so, then you might need to make the first move.. tell him you want to go out. And be specific.. tell him on a date.. not just friends. Tell him you really want to know what it would be like to date.

What can it hurt? Good luck and Happy Holidays!

[dazzling]

It's great that u are friends, but he has to make the first move.

U have already given him enough hints and even asked him directly whether "he would date u.." and he has clearly told u, that he considers being friends most important than dating u, which means no.

In order for the friendship to transition to romantic relation he has to make the move. He has to ask u out to a real date, in advance, like not just meeting u after school. Like come pick u up on a sat night and take u to a movie, etc.

U cannot force the romantic relationship then u make loose him as a friend as well.

Keep being friends with him. Tell him he is cute. Dress better when u are around him.

But also start dating someone else... let's see if he gets jealous... makes a move.

[StaticFX]

As a guy... I have to disagree... Don't date someone else. If he feels like you are friends he Won't do anything. But, DO dress cute, flirt more, and yes, tell him he's cute. And also, as a guy, I think you can make the first move. That would make me feel so good!

[Cutejess2407]

What does everybody else think?