[KBC]

and none of them know about all this because we generally dont drag our fights in public.

I don't see where this fight started.

Is it from you asking him to be more than a friend?After the birthday party?

[KBC]

... he could manage to buy only some gifts ,,

So he has bought you some things,he went out of his way to surprise you on your birthday.

How do you see this as a 1 sided relationship?

He did something out of the ordinary for your benefit,and you say he isn't interested?

[Luv123]

Not exactly a fight... N did not force him to take me more than a friend or something, I don't do it with anyone because anyone needs his own space

I don't see where this fight started.

Is it from you asking him to be more than a friend?After the birthday party?

[Luv123]

This is what it is all about, he says he takes me as his special friend, and when I told him few months back about how I feel for him, he just said he does not want to be in any kind of relationship with anyone and concentrate just on his career.
It is all twisted and complicated which makes it all the more difficult to handle.

So he has bought you some things,he went out of his way to surprise you on your birthday.

How do you see this as a 1 sided relationship?

He did something out of the ordinary for your benefit,and you say he isn't interested?

[KBC]

I am hoping with the more that we communicate,someone will add to this topic.Others thoughts might help clear up a few things.

[Grayfox]

Sorry if I'm missing something. I really don't feel like this is complicated at all. You guys are close friends, you felt something for him, he doesn't feel the same way about you. Therefore, you stop seeing him that way doing whatever you need to to do so. Maybe he likes that you have those feelings for him and doesn't want you to see someone else like that(some people are really like this, even if they don't reciprocate feelings). I'd just ignore him and go on about your life. Whether you stay friends with him is up to you. Depends on whether you can handle being friends with him (and ridding yourself of your feelings) and if he can understand that friends doesn't mean anything more (tell him it shouldn't matter what guy you're interested in, its your business)

[talaniman]

It just seems like you want a lot more from this than he does, and for whatever reason your investing more than he is emotionally. That's not balanced or fair, but you have to realize he has told you how he feels, but your hoping for more, and I know its frustrating when he doesn't give it to you.

At some point you have to back off, see reality, and balance your life with other things, and be open to other ways of being happy without him.

I suggest leaving him alone and being honest with him about your feelings and your need to move on with your life.

Its hard, and frustrating to be friends with someone when you want more from the friendship than they do.

[dazzling]

Listen Luv 123,

I love that movie Holiday and made a difference in my life too and gald I could share it with u.

No one should treat you this way.

Not even a friend should tell you that they have not time for u.

That's the point of friends they make time for u, they want you to be happy for u, & build you up.

If he has no time for u, romantically, then he should be happy that you find someone else. But he keeps standing in the way of your happiness.

U don't need a friend like that much less a boyfriend.

I wish you all the best. I am always here to chat. Good luck!

[Luv123]

Yeah, can actually relate myself to Iris in the movie, I think every time I would get carried away , the movie would help me come back on track!

I know I deserve some one much more sensitive and caring than him, don't want to waste myself on him anymore. I just wish that I would get courage to make myself tough enough to implement this and not go to the same old path again where I always kill myself respect..
Would just say all gals are 'emotional fools'