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    Oct 25, 2007, 03:38 PM
    This shouldn't bother me but.
    OK it's a long story but if your intrested then... my ex girlfrend has emaild me 2 times in the last 2 days first one said

    You f***ing lier

    Second one


    I can't even beleave you
    You fu**ing lier

    And then she called me 2 times

    I had cut off all contact with her she cheated on her boyfriend with me and refused to leave him like she said she would. I tried to be friends but I couldn't deal so I blocked her, a few days latter she found out and started going crazy and telling my friend all this . So I emailed her and asked her why she was freeking out we got in the 3 day discustion that I knew was going to lead nowwhere a few days after I went online and asked her what the hell she wanted frendship or more she said she didn't think there could be anything more so I said fine and told her I couldn't be anything less its to to hard and I need to move on. A few days latter her and a bunch of her drunken friends started calling me, about 9 times in about 1 h. turns out she told a bunch of people something personal that I told her not to tell anyone so they think its funny. Her idea of reveng I got drunk one night at a party got upset and told a friend of mine that I had been confiding in that we had sex and someone over heard and spread it around. Ruind a lot of for her she totally frogave me, and still continued to tell me she wanted to be with me. Any way that part wasn't really relevant.

    Anyway about 3 weeks go by I hear nothing then one of her friends comes on and
    Starts saying to me, telling me to leave her alone cause I'm freeking her out, and its over and that I'm "fun to prank call" and to stop "spreading roumers about on of her friends" who I don't even asociat with not to mention have only met once and had nothing against

    I lost it this girl turnd everyone agenst me I didn't ing do anything she led me on all summer every time I asked her she said she was close to leaving him she made me out to be the bad guy when she's the one who came to me when she's the one who came on to me 2wice so I told this girl all this. I cleard my name and out of pure imature anger I told her all the that she's talked about not only the person I was sending this to but also about her boyfriend.

    I'm confident that that is what she emaild me about... but what I don't get is why didn't she say that. Did she want me to ask her what she's talking about? Or reply in some way? And in what way? She also called me why would she call me? What was she trying to do? She called my cell which she knows I usuly don't have time on and she called it 2 times in 2 min right after emailing me.

    I also seen her at the buss stop the day she called me I didn't have my cell and at this time didn't know she had called but she didn't even look at me why wouldn't she just confront me there when she had the chance?

    Any answer to them questions you have an any other idea about what was going through her mind would be nice.

    And thank you for your time on this insignifacant matter.
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    Oct 25, 2007, 03:47 PM
    Background info on this girl

    She's the type of person to make someone feel bad for leaving her shel say things like o I really cared about you exc even if she didn't

    With me she told all her friends that she hated me and that I was just some other guy but she said she did it to help herself get over me and to make people think it didn't bother her I blelave this because she tried 6 times to get back with me over 2 years and cheated on her boyfriend of one year with me who treated her like gold (and that's know exaduration, I respect this guy a lot because of this, she's not easy)

    Also she's a bit of a drama queen
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    Oct 25, 2007, 03:55 PM

    Her spelling is terrible...and yours is not a heap better.


    Focus on School. School. School. If I was your parent or school counselor, I would hope you would not cheat with her or her with you or be exchanging angry cursing messages with her...

    This kind of life - even at your age - makes you sound like an hourly job is in your future, if you don't re-route your life towards being one of those kids in the good classes going to good schools and not stuck in a 9-5 watching them drive by you and smile... be careful man.

    She is 100% irrelevant at this point.

    I am sorry I am so blunt. But I have seen this stuff many times...

    Good luck - 51!
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    Oct 25, 2007, 03:57 PM
    What the hell is the question?

    Why she's doing this? Why you should care?

    Dumb choices were made on both sides. In time hopefully it'll all fade. You screw around with a person like that, its not going to be a pretty ending.

    Learn from the crap you chose and choose better next time. You can always change your number. If she persists, well, again, its just the price you pay for a set of bad decisions.
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    Oct 25, 2007, 03:58 PM
    Hahaha LMFAO yea man I won't denie I have horible spelling its pathetic actuly and as for school almost done 1 more credit and its off to cullinary.. I won't denie without spell check I wouldn't be where I am and hand wreten assignments suck cause I gota type them then wright them but hey at least I can admit it
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    Oct 25, 2007, 04:00 PM
    Omg I know I should care but its bugging me geez what's the big deal simple question no need to get hostil. It's a bit of curiosity I mean shur I could email her back and find out on my own but I have no reason to and I already know that I ed up bad. But is curiosity such a bad thing?
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    Oct 25, 2007, 04:02 PM
    Well, it sounds like she is definitely a psycho! If she didn't confront you in person, it's probably because she is too afraid to. It's easy to harass someone online or on the phone, but quite a different thing to do it in person. As to why she called you a liar, if you said you were going to tell her boyfriend and then didn't that is probably what she was talking about. Maybe she was freaking out thinking you would email him, and checked his mail constantly, only to find out you never did. I would ignore her and her friends online. If you don't respond, they will probably lose interest and leave you alone. Change your phone number, or a get a machine to screen your calls. It sounds like she treated you and her boyfriend like crap. If she came on to you and then tried to make you out to be the bad guy, it's probably because she felt guilty about cheating and didn't want to deal with those feelings. It's easier to blame others for our problems than to face them ourselves. Maybe consider changing your email address as well. I would cut off all contact with this person. If she tries to get you back in the future, tell her there is NO WAY. Also, if her boyfriend is a good guy, that's another good reason not to see her. Just a thought- if she has been sleeping around on him, you can't be sure she wasn't sleeping with others besides you. Make sure you haven't caught anything from her. Try to meet some new girls, and get some background info on them first. Make sure there is no excess baggage-like having a boyfriend! You sound like a nice person, so you deserve someone who wants a real relationship with you, not a fling. Hope this helps!
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    Oct 25, 2007, 04:06 PM
    Why engage this person at all? Let the psycho run her mad rampage... once she sees you don't care and ignore her shell eventually move on to the next victim.

    But, again, you engaged this person, you might have a "price to pay"... even if its really isn't warranted or respectable.

    She sounds like she's trying to save face and you are an easy target. Ignore her as best you can. The craziness will go away, even if its not as fast as you'd like.
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    Oct 25, 2007, 04:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by 51days
    hahaha LMFAO yea man i wont denie i have horible spelling its pathetic actuly and as for school almost done 1 more credit and its off to cullinary.. i wont denie without spell check i wouldnt be where i am and hand wreten assignments suck cause i gota type them then wright them but hey atleast i can admit it
    Man, just head off to cooking school and do well. And keep learning.

    Trust me. This is a mess. She is a mess. BIG TIME.
    You cannot speculate about someone if they have not earned respect.
    And your respect is dropping by cheating with her and sharing time with her
    And thinking about her. SORRY, but it's true.

    There is NOTHING to be gained here.

    Walk on 51.

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