I'm an 18 year old girl, my boyfriend is a gamer, loves his games, which I don't mind at all. Usually we have a good wee system in that (on the nights we don't hang out and neither of us are going out) he would play his game, either an Xbox one or this online one that he plays with his friends, but he would usually play from any time after dinner until 12ish.. Which is fine, because after that is usually my time and we skype. But recently, he's been playing later, the same game that he's played forever so it's not like its new, and then when he's done, I've either fallen asleep because I can't sit up waiting for him, he's tired afterwards (even though he's usually up all night), he didn't feel well after playing once and sometimes his dad tells him to get off the computer...

He did it again last night, and I was really upset about it but I didn't want to say anything... I got upset once before because he played for like 8 hours straight and expected me to sit and wait until he was done, then he accused me of not liking his games and compared me to his friend's girlfriend who is mental when it comes to her boyfriend playing games... I eventually got through to him that it was about playing it for 8 hours and still not wanting to talk to me. I wasn't angry, I was upset.

Anyway, I think it was obvious I was upset last night when he was done, at about 2ish, I couldn't bring myself say much, he picked up on it and asked me if I was okay and I lied and said I was, not in an attention seeking way.

So my question is, should I be upset or am I being over dramatic... I REALLY love just sitting up late, webcam, and just talking away for hours on nights we don't see each other, and he enjoys it too. Is he putting the game over me? I just don't know how to feel, because I don't want to be a crazy girlfriend but I still don't want to be rejected all of the time.

I just want to say also, I'm not possessive, I have NEVER told him to stop playing games, I've never said stop because I want to talk to you... He plays as long as he wants to. Being on skype is also his choice, I don't force him to go on webcam, he usually wants to.

Please help :(

I don't see a long and happy future here... unless you find something of your own to obsess over while he games for hours on end. I also think you do need to say what you feel straight out, even though I can understand your reluctance to seem needy and y. Try to do it at a time that is away from the games and you both are in a reasonable mood. Plan what you are going to say. If it includes moving on if you are going to be a 'game widow' then be sure you mean it.

If he is playing 8 hours and more all the time and not doing other activities he has a problem. Perhaps even addiction to this. He needs to get a real life away from games.

But I see no future of you with him.

8 hours was a time that I snapped and it caused a fight, usually its not quite as long as that, but still too long I guess, I really like him, I enjoy being with him, he's not just a gamer, he's an incredibe drummer, he's a really nice guy, and because I am not with him on these nights he is playing, I feel like I am being needy, so that's why I'm so reluctant to talk about it.
He has a real life away from games, games are his night thing, like I said, I don't mind, its just game times flowing into my time. Were only 3 months but I do see a future, he's the first boyfriend I've really bonded with and I don't want to lose that :(

8 hours is nothing for a guy on Double Header Sunday, during football season, so be flexible as long as he makes up for it later, and appreciates your "sacrifice" for him.

If he doesn't, then I would be upset with him!