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    Blaq lily Posts: 34, Reputation: 1
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    #1

    Sep 30, 2008, 02:20 PM
    Should I tell her
    I kissed my best friend's boy friend and it was only once but he wants us to date and I told him I can't be with him. What I want to know is should I tell her or not:(
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    Sep 30, 2008, 05:02 PM

    You kissed your best friend boyfriend? So they are currently in a relationship or are they broken-up?

    Even way you should confess before it comes out. He might tell and say you fool him into kissing you. Or he might tell someone the word will get back to her. What made you do this especially if it is your best friend? If I was her I would be mad at both of you and dump him and rethink our friendship. Tell her though because it will come out and besides she deserves the truth.

    Part of doing wrong is confessing it. Also, think what would you do if the situation was reversed and you was in her shoes?
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    Sep 30, 2008, 05:11 PM

    Friends are friends. You should tell her, as its better to do it now rather than later. The later it gets, the more its going to hurt her and what will happen if she found out through other people? They could over exaggerate what really happened and make it sound worse. You're her friend, she trusts you and friends are always forgiving.
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    Sep 30, 2008, 05:41 PM

    Chances are she'll find out anyway. The only way to keep a secret is if you're the only one who knows it.

    It's better that she hears it from you than someone else.
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    Sep 30, 2008, 05:42 PM
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    Good advice.
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    Sep 30, 2008, 06:08 PM

    I will make that in agreement, yes tell her.
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    Sep 30, 2008, 10:11 PM

    You need to come clean. The result is going to be bad either way but it will be the least painful of the two. At first it may seem like a bad idea but its honestly the best. She's more then likely going disown you for this, she will ask her boy about it and he will put all the blame on you for sure. Im sure shell take his side if he lies. Who knows I'm not a mind reader it can go many ways for all I know it could be reversed. Everyone is different and its hard to give advice not knowing how long they have been dating how old all of you are. Weather or not they are very close and have 100 percent trust in each other. We need more of a back round on you her and her boyfriend with details on how long you've been friends. Everything and anything.

    Either way tell her.

    Good luck.
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    Sep 30, 2008, 11:16 PM

    It's a bad deal all the way around but the RIGHT thing to do is fess up. Good luck!
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    #9

    Sep 30, 2008, 11:26 PM

    Yep tell her before she finds out from someone else , and then take it as a lesson learnt.
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    Oct 2, 2008, 06:27 AM

    Best she hear it from you, and know the truth, as all he has to say is you came on to him, and you will look like the villain, not him.
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    Oct 2, 2008, 07:17 AM

    Tell her and fast, you sound young and news spreads like wild fire in school.
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    Oct 2, 2008, 10:53 AM
    Thanks to you al
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    #13

    Oct 2, 2008, 12:57 PM

    Tell her and prepare for the bad (inside she will be happy u told her)

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