It is less than a month before my Year 12 exams are over and yet my boyfriend is offering me no support!. It's not just that... There have been so many little things bottling up, leaving me so confused about where our relationship is heading. I just want to know if perhaps my views are unreasonable...

For starters... I am slightly disappointed about the fact that he recently went out and brought a motor bike... It stresses me because there are so unsafe... but also it means that whenever we go somewhere it's always my car and my petrol... It gets quite frustrating being the one to pick him up all the time to go places...

These days he very rarely sends me messages and NEVER calls me to see how I'm going... there are times when I will send him a message asking how his day is and he doesn't even ask me about mine in the reply... It's a little thing, I know, but when I'm spending up to 8 hours a day studying I really just want to know that he cares how I am!

There are times lately when he won't even kiss me properly... again it's a little thing, but it's just another thing that makes a difference to me.

He tells me that going out for dinner is an "expensive way of living" and yet he loves wasting money on gambling!

I've tried talking to him about the distance I feel that is being created between us. But all he does is brush me aside and never confronts the issue. He tells me that he doesn't have a problem and that I should stop creating "tiffs."

Maybe I'm overreacting because of the stress I'm experiencing with upcoming exams... but it honestly just doesn't feel like he really cares.

What should I do?

You should concentrate on your exams. Not being offensive but your friend is not going to help you get into a decent college and certainly not going to help you get a job. For the next ten years of your life getting a good education and getting a stable job is of importance. There will come a time when you can seriously start thinking about romantic relationships but now is not the time. Hope you do good on your exams!

Thanks for the advice... You are right. I really do need to just focus on my exams at the moment! I just want to stop stressing about him!. Grrr... Still I do have my whole life ahead of me! :)...

If your not happy with this fellow, you have the power to change things. Why be miserable when you don't have to be.

If you stay, don't complain.

... That is rather confronting... But I guess you're right... It's just hard... We've been together for nearly a year and a half and there have been so many good times... I just don't understand why it all seems so difficult right now... I know I can't change him and that if I am miserable then perhaps I should get out... But I still love him and I just miss the way things used to be...