I'm not sure why you start with the argument that has nothing to do with these nights out? Or why you want us to tell you if you should go with him, based on the fact that you had some mysterious argument?
I see this as an issue that needs to be addressed in general - a mother home with a small child vs a husband freewheeling out with his mates at night. I agree that your afternoons out with other moms and children is just an extension of babysitting.
I suggest a sit down with him at a quiet time to work out an actual concrete plan for days out, nights out, how late, stops at bars, nights out together with a sitter at home, and so on, per month. It doesn't have to sound like he's a teenager being grounded. It's two parents making sure they maintain a happy marriage. If you think it might help, get 2 of his male friends and 2 of your female friends to arbitrate and keep it humorous. Then put the schedule on the fridge and joke about it.
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