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    skotty2hotty21 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 11, 2008, 05:01 PM
    Should I give Up?
    I am 23 live in Florida and never had a girl leave me EVER. Until now. Here is the skinny, I met a girl one night at a party who asked for a ride home. On the way she mentioned she had a boyfriend back home in Detroit. Being friendly though I asked her if she wanted to come to my house and eat something. She accepted, and things went great. As she left I got her number. She called me the next day to hang out, as well as the next two days. We eventually kissed, and started hanging out 4-5 times a week as well as talking by phone everyday. All her friends told me she was head over heels for me it was also apparent when I was with her. We began sleeping with one another when she told me things between her and her man back home were going south. This all lasted about 3 months, till I went home to Pittsburgh to visit my family for ten days. She called me the first few, but I was too busy to talk. I am ashamed to say I only texted her twice while I was gone. She picked me up at the airport when I got back and things were weird, but she said she would call me. 5 days later I called asking what had happened she told me we could only be friends, but no explanation. I assumed she straightened things out with the guy back home. I decided to move on with my life even though I liked her very much. I later through the grapevine found out her and him hadn't worked it out completely, but she was casually sleeping with who ever nothing serious. Two months past with little to no contact, until I heard she was moving back home. I asked to see her before she left she accepted . We said our goodbyes, but she asked ME to keep in contact with HER. I called her twice over the last 6 weeks we had casual conversations. The question is should I let this girl that I could see myself spending the rest of my life with go, or continue calling her, and if so more or less often.
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    Feb 11, 2008, 05:05 PM
    I think you need to leave her alone. You two are not on the same page.
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    Feb 11, 2008, 05:12 PM
    If you think about it, she cheated on her boyfriend with you, and cheated on you with "whoever" as you put it.
    This is not the kind of girl you want, trust me
    Her leaving and going back home is going to give you the perfect opportunity for NC
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    Feb 11, 2008, 05:53 PM
    Well, maybe when you were gone & really busy she felt that you were not as interested any longer... She also may have some issues that she needs to deal with before she is really serious with someone new. The best thing to do is to be COMPLETELY open & honest with her. Tell her what you are feeling. This way you won't always sit & wonder?? If she is the one, then you will see. If not, then at least you gave it your all!
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    Feb 11, 2008, 06:35 PM
    I personally think you should consider your values and personal integrity/dignity. I've been in your shoes before dating a chronic cheater thinking things would change. Big mistake, turns out she's been cheating ever since high school and I met her at 24. Not only is your personal dignity on the line, but your HEALTH, STDs ring a bell? You put yourself at great risk being with someone so promiscuous. Find a good girl, someone who's looking for a commitment like you are. Someone worth your love and attention. You're most likely just sentimentally attached, but that's just my opinion.
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    Feb 12, 2008, 12:07 PM
    How you want this female as a life mate is beyond me. Way beyond!! She doesn't see you that way, so stop wasting your time, unless you like being an occasional booty call, and party mate. That's all you are to her. Must be some great booty, for your nose to be that open. You really know nothing else about her do you??

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