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    El-Cresens Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 18, 2008, 01:01 PM
    Should I give it a try?
    Ello guys!

    OverDozed recommended me this site.

    Here's my situation... cut the story short.
    A girl was in love with me.she's madly deeply into me. And I do not know if should give it a try.I just came out of a failed relationship. A girl dumped me. Then after a few months, this girl introduced herself to me. The thing is. I do not know if should give it a try (just said that.).
    I took her out on a date this past valentines day. I was a friendly date. We watched a movie then on to dinner. While watching, she never let go of my hand. She kept holding on to it till the movie ended. She said she's in love with me. I told her the truth, that I wanted more time to think about it, about my feelings. And that am enjoying my freedom for now. But the truth is, I think am not in love with her. How should I tell her?I do not want to hurt her feelings.

    Her friends likes me for her. She even said that she was not like this before. That am the 1st guy to made her feel so high. Every time she see me, she always smile. I also replied her with a smile, then ignore her. She asked me once, she said "i like you. do you like me too?" I answered, "i do not know." "am not sure" "i don't know". She said, "ok, ill wait." "i can wait."

    I do not know what to do guys. Should I give it a try? Or tell her now that I do not feel the same way for her? Or I just need some more time?

    Any suggestions or comments?
    Thanks...
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    Feb 18, 2008, 01:11 PM
    It sounds like you are being very honest with her about your feelings. That is very good.

    Now be honest with yourself.

    If you know that you aren't ready for a relationship at this point, then don't try to push it. Relationships work when both people are committed to being in the relationship, not when one person is "in love" and the other doesn't know what they are thinking.

    This girl is enamored with you. She believes the sun rises and sets in your eyes. That is a very empowering feeling... but if you're not ready to return that hero-worship, don't push it.

    Be careful with her heart. Be true to yours.

    And good luck, darlin! :)
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    Feb 18, 2008, 01:14 PM
    Don't jump into it if you're not ready.

    Also, a girl dropping the L word THAT quickly... red flag.

    If you're interested and see it going somewhere in the future, tell her that you're interested but you want to go slow... and take some time off on your own. If she wants to meet up every other day, say you'd prefer seeing her once a week. etc.

    Do things the way you want.
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    Feb 18, 2008, 01:15 PM
    Umm, I think you can answer your own question if you are uncertain of something that means that you still need time to think, don't rush your feelings for someone else convenience if she can wait, then she shouldn't keep asking you over and over.. Take your time as much time as you need, and even if she may feel hurt from you being honest, at least you are being honest... Just make sure you tell her sincerely. See her reaction if she waits that is totally on her, will and she should not use that against you. So Go with your true feelings... If a friend is what you want then let that be clear, just don't give her the wrong impression... affection is not recommended.. It will only complicate matters..
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    Feb 18, 2008, 06:19 PM
    Definitley a red flag on the "love" thing... its good that you know you're not ready for what she wants... but the whole "in love" thing would really get to me, seems to me that she's very immature, as she can't tell infatuation from love. I would take things mad slow, and I know its nice having someone after you (got a couple myself) ;p. anyway, I agree with sneeze.
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    Feb 19, 2008, 05:46 AM
    Yah! Am being. Only being honest to myself and her... she keep on texting me everyday... even if I do not reply her text messages, she still text me... one of her told me again lately that I should go for it for she's been itchy getting me... I told her friend that I don't want to hurt her... I keep on telling her and her friends that am just enjoying my freedom... there were times that I feel that I like her, but most of the time I don't... maybe its just the things I hear from her friends... "go for it!"... ouch! Am I in trouble?aw!
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    Feb 19, 2008, 05:18 PM
    You have carried yourself well so far, and someone telling you they love you, without knowing you, is a big red flag. Your not ready, and she still pursues, so I think an honest talk is in order, but be nice, and be firm. She will be hurt, but that's not your problem. The sooner the better.
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    Feb 20, 2008, 01:49 AM
    Ill try an talk to her... I agreed to see her this day...
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