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stretchdawg · Apr 25, 2011, 09:41 AM

I dated this girl for little over a year. At the start of the relationship she seemed infatuated with me, a lot more then I was with her. As time went on I started becoming more attracted to her and she started becoming less attracted to me... We broke up about a month ago... I used the no contact rule and after about a week she sent me a text message saying that she missed me. So we started hanging out again.

There were a few jealousy issues on both sides, towards the end of our relationship and I think it played a pretty big part in us breaking up. I still care about her and want to make it work but I don't know if I trust her enough to get back with her and I think she feels the same.

Im feeling really conflicted about what to do and any words of wisdom or advice would be very appreciated.

ken007nielsen · Apr 25, 2011, 10:04 AM

The answer would be no.

And the reason is, what exactly have you as a couple been working on to ensure that your jealosy issues won't occur again?

I'm going to assume, nothing has been done.

Honesty, communication!

amicon · Apr 25, 2011, 10:08 AM

When in doubt,don't.

I don't think you're on the same page,so why try for a repeat?

papintiggy · Apr 25, 2011, 10:32 AM

My answer would be no. Reason why I say this is because you may care for her but doesshe care the same way. Is she willinging to understand that if you guys were to get back together, there has to be commitment and dedication tfor the relationship to work. Communication plays a major rule in a relationship, you guys nay have different views but if you can't compromise why waste the time. In the long rum it may hurt you more than what it is hurting you now. Will time and patience everything works out.

talaniman · Apr 25, 2011, 02:44 PM

Talaniman Rule - When you get dumped, don't go back to get dumped again.

vanheart · Apr 25, 2011, 08:32 PM

"i started becoming more attracted to her and she started becoming less attracted to me"

There you go. Spend your time wisely.

Sumitkumar7266 · Apr 26, 2011, 12:37 AM

Don't go back.. My answer is also No.. Use the NC rule and follow it sincerely..

stretchdawg · Apr 27, 2011, 10:28 PM

I'm not calling her or texting her and now she's becoming obsessed with me again. She texts me daily and I don't know what to do. I've figured out why the relationship failed and she want to try it again.

Alty · Apr 27, 2011, 11:27 PM

Here's something to think about. You're doubting this. You're not sure about going back. If you were sure, you'd go back, it would be a no brainer.

You're doubting the wisdom of going back because deep down you know it's a bad idea. So follow your gut on this one.

If you two are comfortable being friends, there's no reason not to continue a friendship. I probably would let a little more time lapse between the breakup and friendship, especially since she seems to want more then just friendship. Right now I'd go to no contact, let yourself heal, let her heal, let both of you move on, and then, if you're meant to be friends, see how it goes then. Right now, stay away.

I wouldn't go back to being boyfriend and girlfriend. It didn't work the first time. There's no reason to think it will work the second time. Missing each other isn't a good enough reason to be a couple.