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cexpress1997 · Jan 17, 2012, 08:55 PM

So my all time crush and I have been talking it up lately and were best buds and recently we got in a fight because he thought our friendship was a total joke which I didn't understand at all but we made up and well I really like him a lot and I'm pretty sure the feelings are mutual. So he's over here flirting with me and leading me one, when one day he randomly comes up to me, (and I'm talking totally out of the blue!) and tells me he's in love with my best friend! I feel like a total fool, because I THOUGHT we had a thing! I'm so mad at him because of the leading on thing, or maybe its jealousy? I don't know but I need major help! Do I forget about him and ignore him or do I try to be friends again even though he wrecked me?

talaniman · Jan 17, 2012, 10:58 PM

How old are you both? You don't have to be friends with some one you think was leading you on. Why would you? Oh that's right, that all time crush thing. See where it got you? Get over the crush first, and then see how you feel so you won't be so easily lead on... by any one.

PunkkBarbiee · Jan 19, 2012, 08:58 AM

Wow, I have had the EXACT thing happen to me. So, I will tell you what I did. First of all, take a break from him. Cut all contact with him. Then, go up to your best friend and bring him into the main topic, BUT don't tell her that he likes her --not yet at least. Then when you have a good chance be like, "You don't like him more than a friend, right?" and if she answers no, tell her that you are absolutely head over heels for him. After that, tell her what you know; you like him, he led you on, he likes her. If she were a true friend, she would stay away from him and set him straight. But, if she happens to be a backstabber, and DOES go out with him while knowing that you like him, dump BOTH of them. You don't need people like that in your life. SO, dump 'em and move on, dear. Remember that time heals everything.

Xoxo.
PunkkBarbiee.

politicalincrct · Feb 3, 2012, 12:20 AM

Okay, I must say this first - nobobdy owns anybody until a ring is on - so barbiee's statement about your friend in my opinion is wrong. That to me is the envious "if I can't have candy - you can't have candy syndrome". Please be more adult than that.
As far as he goes... kind of hard to say... sounds like he may have been using you to get to your best friend. Then again - us males do some dumb stuff to find out where you women stand sometimes... we will say and do things to get a reaction from you so we know where you stand sometimes.
Flirting is something done innocently at times without intent - I have several female friends that we flirt with one another - but we know that is all it is. Wonder if maybe he didn't realize you were taking it for more than that? Confront in aggressive - but nonhostile manner and get an answer on what was exactly going on... be prepared for the worst...

SoftSummer · Feb 23, 2012, 12:01 PM

UGH!! What an a hole!! Like, ugh. I'd be too emotionally scared. Okay fine. I'm being a little dramatic. But seriously. He shouldn't have done that. You need to address it with him (write it down first and them read it, I don't suggest email or any type of record he could keep because he doesn't seem trust worthy enough for that) and then let him know that right now you don't even feel like dealing with him... it's the not the cleanest thing to do. But it would be the honest thing to do to.

arandombobbypin · Dec 17, 2012, 08:08 PM

Same thing happened to me, but 100000000000000 times worse... I still dontknow what to do