Ok, I am friends with this girl from my track team. She is 14, and I am 12, almost 13. Well, she had this boyfriend for about 2 years, but finally, she dumbed him. He was really sad about that break-up, and I think that he won't want to go out with her anymore because of what she did. Well, I really like this guy, so I was wondering, should I like this guy? Or should I stay close friends with my friend, and never know what it is like to go out with the guy of my dreams?

Good evening...
Your question brought a smile to my face as I am a mother of an almost 12 year old son, and you just made me feel real old. Understand that I think on this site most people are adults and moms and dads in some cases, even grandparents. So we will offer advice but you may not like to hear it.

First, let me tell you that though I do not know the relationship you have with your parents. I can tell you as a parent, we love when are kids come and ask us questions, even ones like this. However, understanding that might not be cool or embarrassing I'd like to offer some thoughts.

First, this boy, I assure you is probably not the boy of your dreams, that is those young years talking. Second, the friendships you establish with your girlfriends can be lifelong and will stay loyal. You will find through these very tough teen years how much you need those girlfriends. Boys come and go, even the perfect ones. Lastly, I know you are familiar with the word integrity. You need to really understand what you will be doing if you do try to date this boy. It's easy for us to justify that something like this is okay, if another did something, we view worse, in our eyes. However, your personal standards of right and wrong shouldn't be compared or set by those of others.

The gut feeling you have right now that is screaming no, is your answer. If you think I'm wrong and your gut isn't telling you it's wrong.Then ask yourself why you are on here asking us? That's your intuition giving you the answer you don't want. As much as it this is about Mr. Wonderful, right now. Let me leave you with something far more important to take from this answer than about dating a boy or not.

It's learning to trust and listen to your gut all throughout your life. You will find that it rarely leads you astray and can be a comfort in the middle of a storm. You probably won't understand this part of my advice now and that's okay. Just print it off, tuck it in your back pocket and pull it out in a few years. You will find then anytime you are unsure of something it helps to guide you. Then websites like this can help guide you the rest of the way.

Good luck...

It was your friend who broke up with him so there should be no problem on her end of it with you liking him now.