She Says she doesn't want to commit, but still wants me there as if we were.
Asked Sep 19, 2007, 09:52 PM
First I meant she doesn't want a RELATIONSHIP, but still wants me there as if we had one... My Girlfriend and I recently split. We split because (and these are her words, not mine) one thing will happen, whether big or something really small, and she would blow up about it... so bad that she'd cuss me sometimes, tell me to leave, or just shut-off; which would lead eventually in the same conversation to us splitting. Then we would always be back together all happy and good until the same thing happened again. For the past 2 weeks, we've pretty much been acting the same... still happy, I still stay with her sometimes, had sex twice, and still I love you's and I miss you's and want you to be with me... Pretty much we still act the same as we do when were dating. Tonight I asked her what's going on, because she says that we are just friends, but really good friends. She still wants us to act the same... still sleeping over, try not to have sex but might happen, still saying I love you, and just wanting to be with each other, just without the commitment. I told there that for her not wanting a commitment, and with me wanting a commitment... that it just won't work the way she wants it to. I'm not a person who can say I love you, I miss you, sleep over with someone, and have sex everyonce in a while and NOT want to have a commitment to that person, I'm just not that way. I do love her, and I believe her when she says she loves me, but what do I do... When I left her room tonight, she got mad and said that apparently what she wants doesn't matter because I've already spoken my mind and what I feel... I didn't give in, and I left her room. Was it wrong to leave her room? Should I still act like we are together, talk like we are together, and all... but not have a commitment? To me it just doesn't add up... same thing with If it walks like a duck, sounds like a duck, and looks like a duck... then it's a duck. Or should it be the other way? That even though we act like it, talk like it, and look like it... but we're not together? Can someone help me out here... its always good to have an outsiders opinion. It seems most of the women/girls I ask... I've already had a prior relationship with, or they currently have a little thing for me... Can anyone give me a little insight on what I should do? Its kind of hard to listen to my girl/ex-girl, too... because she's changed her mind sooooo many times before..? Thanks ahead to anyone who can leave me a little bit...
Last edited by magicraft5; Sep 19, 2007 at 10:04 PM.