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jetta08 · Dec 3, 2008, 09:35 AM

I was with my exgirlfriend for like a year, she was always great, very special person, always caring and loving.. I spent the best summer with her and there were no problems until just a month ago when she started changing saying that she needed time and more... she said she is too young for a relationship and needed space. The hard thing to understand is that she was always the one coming over my house, calling me and more. I gave her the space she need it. Now the situation is that we are not together and I miss her every minute that passes by. I thought of not answering her calls, texts or even changing my number. The thoughts that she is seeing someone else keeps passing through my head.. what can I do.. should I just forget about her, and ignore her completely..

LifeChangesMan · Dec 3, 2008, 09:51 AM

Hey buddy,

I would say respect what she says to you, let her go do her own thing, cut off contact with her don't answer her or anything because your doing that for yourself, not for her. Talking to her will just cause more confusion in your head, and you don't want that because you got enough on your mind already, I would say you need to not think about it and over analyze details just take it for as is, you said she loves you and you love her, let her go man. If you love something set it free, and if it comes back it's meant to be.

As for your other part about her being with someone else, of course it's possible, likely? Probably but only you know her better then anyone who will respond here, but you have to understand there's not a thing you can do about it, and I would try and keep things like that out of sight and out of mind.

Hope this helps you,
Take care,
LCM

DeleteAndBan · Dec 3, 2008, 09:52 AM

Ignoring is maybe a little harsh, but you could communicate to her that if she does not want to be with you, you will do what's best for yourself and take your personal time to get over her, meaning no contact for a couple of months.

And then stick to it. Either she will come back or she won't. In any case don't sit around the house and live yer life.

Good luck!

wolfgangqpublic · Dec 3, 2008, 11:54 AM

I'll be direct

1) She no longer has any interest in being with you in a romantic sense - this is unlikely to change

2) You are not at a point where you have accepted the finality of the relationship, therefore you need to tell her to stop communicating with you for the time being, and you'll get in touch with her if and when you are ready to proceed without any ulterior motive or feelings.

3) For your own sake, assume she will be with another guy as soon as possible - because it will happen eventually.

4) Focus on you, because if you do that you will find strength, and when she ends up with another guy you may not care because you could have already found someone else.

talaniman · Dec 3, 2008, 02:16 PM

She wants space give it to her, and move forward with your own life, and find someone else to share a good time with.

What can I do.. should I just forget about her, and ignore her completely..

You got it. Avoid the friend zone confusion, and drama.

Keep your dignity, and self respect, by not having false hope she wants you back, as that will put you in a position you will fall for anything. That's not love.

face_reality · Dec 3, 2008, 06:49 PM

When a girl says she needs space. It means you're dead in the water. It's over men. Stop all forms of communication -- that means, don't take her calls, email and text. If you see her by accident be friendly but friends is not an option. Just move on with some dignity.

kimsland · Dec 3, 2008, 06:57 PM

I agree with all

By the way, you don't know this now, but guess what people get over things all the time

You'll be fine, yes you will, yes you will (see it takes time)

artlady · Dec 3, 2008, 07:00 PM

It sounds as if she wants to have her cake and eat it too.
She wants the friendship but no serious relationship to go with it.

If she know you still want more maybe she is just playing the field waiting for someone she likes better to come along and keeping you in the playing field in case no one does.

Kind of like stringing you along.

I would ignore her as this neither here nor there relationship is only hurting you.

Bottom line is you can't make someone want you and or love you and you need to protect your own heart.

There really are *lots of fish in the sea* and some will be happy to hook up with you.

Best of luck!