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Xander5498 · Dec 25, 2008, 02:13 AM

Hey everyone,
I've been kind of flirting with this girl at college, (not my girlfriend of more than a year) and its all in good fun. I would never go through with anything, but I'm a flirtatious person and I was wondering if 'sexting', which would be a harsh generalization of our conversations could be considered cheating? It's kind of like that phrase 'kiss your mother with that mouth?' and it doesn't feel 'right' but it also doesn't feel 'wrong'... ah the dilemmas of 21st cent. Technology I guess.

Anyway, how can I stop when we go away from each other and I'm lonely at 1am etc etc etc.. Anybody with experience or advice? Thanks.

thadevilsadvocate · Dec 25, 2008, 03:03 AM

Yes its cheating. You shouldn't be talking to anyone like that if I you have a girlfriend. You are being very disrespectful to your girlfriend. Think of it this way, how do you think your girlfriend would feel if she knew that you were having these text conversations with another girl? I'm sure she would be rather upset... you are at the very least, emotionally cheating on her... it doesn't matter whether you would follow through with anything... you want to engage in "sexting", then "sext" your girlfriend.

Bottom line, quit it.

blue_st4r · Dec 25, 2008, 04:08 AM

Suggestion.

Talk to your girl as if she was your girl!

Talk to every other girl as if she was you sister.

Show some respect to your girl and be special only to her!

talaniman · Dec 25, 2008, 06:08 AM

How would you feel if your g/f was doing the same thing? Would you think she was cheating?

Fr_Chuck · Dec 25, 2008, 08:45 AM

Of course it is cheating, you don't do this if you have a girlfriend.

Xander5498 · Dec 26, 2008, 09:08 PM

Thanks everyone, I have cut that out of my life, and I'm definitely even more happy. Thanks for your advice on this very disrespectful behavior - it was just toxic to my relationship and I feel much better without it.

Thanks.

And if anybody else wants to chime in - please, please do.

Have a great new year.

Romefalls19 · Dec 27, 2008, 12:17 AM

I have to agree with everyone else, I know I wouldn't like my fiancé doing it. Always wonder how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot.

whit17 · Sep 10, 2011, 09:01 AM

Yes, I would have to say sexting is cheating. I dated a guy I really thought I was I lovve with and then he broke up with me because I said I would not have sex until I was married. The day after the breakup, already being upset to the point of tears(the first guy I have actually cried over) I found out that he had been sexting this other girl that he was talking to before we were together and that all the time he had told me he loved me he had really wanted to be with someone else. I realize that you did not want to go through with this other girl, but imagine what your girlfriend would think if she saw those text messages! She would think otherwise and that, my friend, would not end well. So if I were you, stop the sexting and stay true to the one you love.