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Thank you so much Epiphony, that was beautiful, and I will definitely try to do that. Maybe that is why we have such a hard time communicating with each other. He feels I am about to go into an...

I agree with slapshot. You need to see that in two months, she is continuting to speak to this guy on a regular basis. Sounds to me that she doesn't know who or what she wants. If I were you, I would...

The thing is I really do love this man. But, I do see what you are saying. Communication is a huge factor in any relationship, however I am afraid to talk with him sometimes. He gets angry and lays...

That's just it, I wish. If I bring anything up at all, he freaks out (not physically). He gets mad, throws a tantrum like a spoiled little brat. I'm at the point where I am afraid to even bring...

Thank you spitvenom and redhead, you both make perfect sense. He is a bit of a control freak anyway.

We've had that talk already; the thing is he can spend on whatever he wants, but if I need anything, I need to clear it with him first, or sometimes even before I clear anything, he negates it.

Hi Redhead,

Yes, we share all the finances, but he dictates everything.

Hi Everybody,

Starlite here again.

Do I have a reason to feel resentful? How do I communicate this without coming off as a Bit%^.

My boyfriend of 4 years (we are living together) just...

Thank you ZoeMarie, I appreciate that. He certainly is.

That's a beautiful idea, I wish. Thank you so much, and for those points too. I am so lucky to have him in my life, and I hope he feels the same way.

Hi I Wish, and Zoe,

That is actually what my boyfriend said. As far as therapy, yes, he has been with me on numerous occasions but he still gets frustrated and angry at me.

Thanks I wish, but how do I make my boyfriend happy again?

Hi I Wish,

He says I'm doing better, however I still have these insecurities. They are driving me crazy, and I don't want to lose my boyfriend.

Thank you Zoe, the problem is I can't afford it right now. So far I do walk and stuff like that. I just don't know how to get over my insecurities.

We have been together for 4 years, and he says he doesn't want to end the relationship. He wants to marry me someday. I just need to get my SH*& together and get over all of this. I also get jealous...

Hi ZoeMarie,

Yes, all of my life, ever since I was little. I remember when I was real little going to the supermarket with my mom, and walking up to a stranger (another lady) and saying Hi, I...

Good Morning Everyone,

Starlite here. Guys, I'm in a real tough spot. My insecurites are driving me and my boyfriend crazy. I am going to therapy once a week, I'm on meds for depression,...

You should stop seeing this person, and let him get help on his own. You cannot carry him anymore, because it will continue to take its toll on you. Of course stay cordial for the child's sake, but...

Hi Bill,

Welcome to AMHD! Honestly it sounds like she is very immature and just wants you as a friend with benefits, nothing more. I would not put anymore time or effort into this if I were you,...

Sorry, but this isn't a psychic website

I agree with Tal. You definitely sound depressed. You should get into see a therapist to help you with your depression. I also think you should get out of the marriage. It doesn't seem healthy at...

Hi Witetiger,

I wish you peace and love and may you have a full recovery. I am so sorry that he did this to you. He isn't worth it at all. You are sooo much better than him, and deserve so much...

Hi G,

I wouldn't send her anything right now. Let her come back to you. You both had a nice talk and she knows how you feel, I'm sure, but she needs to come back to you. Believe me it is better...

You are so right, Lonely. I thank God every day for him and that he picked me.

No Way! Doesn't his mother know that she is getting married to you??

You're kidding! I wouldn't like that either. Grandkids or not, I don't think they need to be at your wedding. It's not about the grandkids, its about you two!

I feel the same way about my man. Sometimes I feel as though he deserves better. Isn't it horrible that we are feeling this way?

This sounds like us. I really have to keep myself in check. I don't want to lose this man. I love him too much.

Hi Lonely,

That is EXACTLY what he is saying to me! What happened though? Why did you guys break up? I have to read your OP again.

Here is an interesting link about flirting:

10 Signs of Flirting: How to Read Body Language and Unspoken Signals from Potential Mates | Suite101.com

Hi Liz,

Thank you for that. I feel too that if a line is crossed, that it could lead to cheating also.

Beautifully put Rome! That is what I need to start doing. Thank you!

About the flirting, the other day we were at a party, and he walked over to a girl that he used to work with and put his arm...

You know, Rome? My boyfriend just said to me on the phone that he needs me to write down all of the 'questions' that I would normally ask him (the ones for reassurance) and have the therapist answer...

Excellent analogy, Rome. Yes, stuck in the mud is how I feel a lot of the time. My boyfriend said to me last night, basically Sh&^ or get off the pot with regards to my insecurities and lack of...

I agree with you, Rome. I think because of myself and my insecurities, I sometimes feel that when my man flirts he would rather be with them. It's horrible to make such an assumption, I know, and I...

Hello Unhappy,

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. But, even though abortion isn't a method of birth control, I think you are doing what you need to do right now. Because your...

Hi Everyone,

My question for all is does flirting lead to cheating? And when is flirting going too far?

Any thoughts?

Hi Tal,

7 months

Hi Tal,

What possibilities though. That is what I am gray on.

I guess I am looking for a guarantee. Why won't he give me one? Does that mean he doesn't see it happening?

How do I know if he is for real by talking about the future/marraige though, without asking for reassurance?

Thanks Roxy, but when he says things like "See, I tell you I don't have a crystal ball, the only guarantees in life are death and taxes, etc" I get scared that he doesn't want to marry me or have a...

Thanks Roxy and I wish!

I actually have talked to him about the contradiction and he said he isn't contradicting. He wants to get married and have a future, he just doesn't obsess about it. But...

Don't wait around anymore. You need to focus on yourself and not on her anymore. If she is interested in you, let her make the contact, not you. You have waited long enough. It isn't fair to you, hon.

That is true, Roxy. I just get scared and even more insecure when he contradicts though.

Thank you Roxy! By the way, I am a huge Alice in Wonderland fan myself!!

Thanks I wish,

I mean, we are very close, we get along great, he has been talking about the 'future' more and more, even though he says he is a day to day kind of guy, we are getting his and hers...

Absolutely! The fact that you would hesitate is a great sign of healing and moving on! Good for you, I wish.

As far as your friends, you are not being too extreme at all. It is not them dealing...

What did you do on your first date? If you went somewhere in particular, try and get a piece of memorabilia from that place (Match book, napkin with the name, etc) and present him with it; put it on...

Hi Everyone,

I would like your honest opinions. My boyfriend and I live together and we talk about our future, marriage etc. We are both divorced from past marraiges. My boyfriend says that he...