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There might be something seriously wrong with me. I read everyone's advice and know in my mind that this relationship (on then off, then on again, good then bad; then bad again) is making me...

To summarize - yes, I am unbelievably insecure, paranoid, etc. I am probably not a good partner to be in a relationship because it causes me to be jealous and question everything.

On the other...

First, I wanted to thank everyone for the support and advice. I am aware it is so hard to give advice on something when you don't know me or my exact situation; only what I am able to put here...

Ok, so an update and a request for advice.

As many of you know, my current "girlfriend" of 5+ years broke up with me, was definitely with other men (99% sure), and then we got back together. She...

To give y'all an update, it has been over 2 months since my last post. As those of you which have read my story know, I was in a relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years, when she gave me the "I...

Thank you for your advice. Some of it I agree with. Some, not necessarily. For example, "she doesn't want what you want" or "she's gone". Her actions over the past weeks; explaining why she wanted...

So, it has been 3 weeks since my last post and I wanted to provide y'all with an update.

Here it goes. As you may know from reading all of the unbelievable bs I've been through the past few...

I wanted to provide y'all with a quick update. So I was making it through NC and things were getting better. To be honest I was still completely miserable. I was getting good at not responding to...

It's a bad situation. This sounds awful, but the only real way I will be over her is if I meet someone I like as much. I feel like there is a void in my life as I have a lot of people who I am good...

Does anyone think I may need psychological counseling? It has been two months since this ordeal started and I am still not over it. I think about my x ALL the time. I try to stay busy during the...

Hey y'all. It's been about a week since my last post and wanted to provide you with an update.

After giving in to her contacting me and telling me she wanted to start over, but then when I did...

Yes, a month and a half ago I should have initiated NC and stuck with it. Let this be a lesson because now I am back to day four of NC after a month of starting over numerous times. And each time...

I just don't understand how someone can go from "i love you", "I want to be with you", "I want to start over" and then a fews days later, "I don't want to be in a relationship with you"? It is cruel...

I should have listened but I didn't. So days went by and she kept emailing and texting me, telling me she "missed me" and "wanted to try again" multiple times. Eventually, I caved and spoke with...

So I would appreciate some serious advice from all of you that have read this whole story. This afternoon I got an email from the x. It read "Bill, I have been thinking about everything that...

So, I called her sister to make sure she was all right. Other than the broken arm, her sister told me she was doing fine with some minor bumps and bruises. A few hours after calling her sister, I...

Ok, so I woke up this morning and had six missed calls from Lindsay, the x, last night around 11:45pm. Then a text message from her at 5:00am saying, "I got mugged last night. They broke my arm and...

I don't know what to do with this? I'm getting conflicting advice from my friends. Most women will not just have sex with a man - so some say this means part of her wants me back and wants to...

Man, oh, man. After denying her request to have lunch with her twice I thought it would be done. But no siree. She just emailed me a picture of her naked from the waist up and asked if I wanted her...

So, a quick update. After not hearing from the x for a week, I ran into her at a house party thrown by one of my friends. She showed up with two mutual girlfriends of hers that knew the host. I'm...

All, thanks for the advice. It is just so difficult when someone tells you they want a "break" and then continues to contact you and make out with you.

I'm not trying to play any games, as the...

So, an update, and not a good one.

After going to the concert with the x and her in not so many words telling me that she didn't want a relationship anymore and me thinking she was trying to keep...

Oh my god, I just got the following email unprovoked: "I am sorry I said those things about being over you last night. I'm not. I was just worried that it would make things more difficult. I hope it...

Ready for the kicker? After basically telling me last night at the concert that she wasn't romantically interested in me anymore and she still wanted to move on with her life (I didn't bring it up,...

Well, it's day one of NC for the second time and just lke starting all over again. All the feelings of constant sadness and despair, like your heart was ripped out, are back just like the day it...

Well, you were all right. But so was I.

I went and I know now without a doubt she is done with me. Not sure why she would want to go with me, not sure why she has been saying she missed me,...

Damm, I was doing so good. Then this morning I woke up and all I could think about was her and how she said she missed me and wanted to see me. I kept thinking I can't imagine my life without this...

Unbelievable! So, I was running errands this morning and I ran into her at the teller in line. I've never seen her at this bank? Although there are very few in the part of downtown we live in and I...

Things have taken a weird turn. After not speaking to her all weekend. She sent me an email this morning. She said that she missed me and that over the past few weeks that we have been apart she...

Against everything in my heart, I emailed Lindsay and canceled the lunch. Told her I just wasn't ready. She responded, "It's your choice. Don't blame me, I would be happy to see you and have you...

Well in a moment of weakness and when I was a little bit intoxicated last night, I texted her and told her I would meet her for lunch on Monday. She agreed.

I know I shouldn't go, I know I should...

It just keeps getting more difficult, every time I am convinced I can move on, she's back. Last night she called me twice at 2am. No messages. Then she sends me a message on Facebook this morning...

Not sure what you mean by "regain my dignity" and "have the power now". I didn't think this was a game for power and regarding "dignity" not even sure how that comes into play. She has been the one...

I may be dealing with the most manipulative person ever written about on this board. This morning, after receiving the email yesterday about moving out, my response in weakness asking her to stop...

I just got a sudden wave of depression and sadness. For some reason now, I can't stop thinking about her being sexually with another guy? Making me physically ill. How to get over this?

So after the angry voicemail and making it through 2 more days of NC, I was feeling good and thought this could possibly be the end of it. What else could she say after telling someone to "Go F***...

Thank you all for the advice.

Homegirl50, you seem to always come down on the opposite side here - and I can understand that. There are always two different sides to a story. However, in this...

Another call and this time a voicemail, it appears the NC had an effect, "F*** you. Thanks for calling me back. I am done with you. You had your chance. I hope you are thinking about what you lost...

It has been a very tough couple of days. The sadness is almost unbearable at times. Since the email on Friday morning and not responding, I did not hear from her Friday night and all day Saturday. ...

Sh*t, I think my email opened the door for her. I decided not to respond to the request for lunch and maintain NC. A few minutes ago, I get another email "Real Nice. I heard you were making out...

I get it. The concept of NC is used to heal and move on with your life. It's the only healthy way to move on - because maintaining contact or hanging on will only start the cycle over and cause more...

To be honest, I'm in the mind set of NC for both. She decided she wanted to end things - not me. So, despite any feelings I may have to say, "I miss you too", I'm not going to respond out of spite...

So, one day after the text calling me a "deadbeat" and "a**hole", she sends me an email this morning, it said "I miss you this morning and I wish things would have not turned out this way."

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Homegirl50 - I think I agree with you. Instead of following the NC advice, I likely should have replied that I was not going to take a dog. At least it would have shown that I had some cojones.
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She knows how to twist the knife - I just got another txt this time saying, "I took care of the dog, so don't bother to reply. You're an a**hole deadbeat. Good thing they weren't kids". Did I do the...

I'm not defending her, because right now all I feel is hate for her actions, but technically she did not lie and/or cheat - despite her telling me "she loved me", she did say that "she wanted time to...

So, an update. I talked to one of my friends, who works with this guy, John, who is social friends with the x and has always wanted to date her. While we were dating John and Lindsay (the x) would...

Do I love her, yes. Do I want to be with her for the rest of my life? I don't know, now. I did. I would right now, but maybe because I just miss her so much. But, there were/are things I also...

Wouldn't NOT responding show weakness? Not "man" enough to address it? I don't think she is writing in an attempt to assert power/re-establish anything - I really think she is so selfish that she...

So a quick update.

To provide some context, when the x and I moved in together, she wanted a dog. So we adopted one because she wanted one, not me, but I agreed. 6 months later she adopted...