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This is actually a story from my end, but it fits nicely in the friendship issue. You see, she's been always a good friend, and I didn't want to miss that, sunk cost theory and all. So I planned to...

It was bound to happen, right? I'm losing it, emotionally. I'm fine, I'll be fine, I'm functional and fully functioning. But I am not feeling right. It's just... I don't know what she's thinking. I...

I wouldn't beat myself that hard, EC. But I think people here are right. You are still emotional about the whole thing, it seems. I think your attitude from now on should be to let her live her life,...

I haven't been coming to AMHD often so I only read this update now... This thing about exes (that is also true with other women I've been with, maybe it's something of the human nature) is that when...

I'm starting to believe in God and getting the feeling he has an interesting sense of humor.

I became a single guy again. I developed a few romance interests that didn't move forward for various...

A late update, in case anyone was wondering what happened to me...

Well, I stayed out of touch with my ex for a while (about two months) until Easter, when I felt I should just wish Happy Easter....

Hey EC. I guess I did pretty much the same thing as you did... Did the NC for a while then slowly started speaking again with her, without second intentions, just to talk really... I don't know if...

Yep, that's what I meant. But he's not your best choice right now. I'm solidary to your quest for a friend - I'm having a couple of issues with that myself - but keeping common friends around are...

Is he your only friend right now? If he is, then you might as well use him, but try making another friend. If you have other friends, try to get closer to them and let this guy do his thing.

It...

I found out that after sometime, we still keep hanging on just because it feels better to have the messy ex situation than having nothing at all. It is hard but do your best to just not think about...

Well, it feels like an addiction because it is an addiction. Don't fret. You'll be fine soon enough. Just try to think about something else.

It makes a lot of sense to feel like being the bad guy. I feel exactly that way. But you can't help it. You're not doing this because you want to. You're doing this because it's the only sane thing...

:-)

I'm proud of you.

I mean, I'm saying that because you are dying out of curiosity. In the ideal world of perfect dumpees, we just get out of the scene quietly, never to be heard of again. But we do our foolish things...

Again, I'll be the controversial guy here but, here's what I suggest.

Ask your friend to forward this e-mail or give you the letter, if it was addressed to you. If it's not, then find out what was...

Haha. You need to dump your friend ;-).

That sign is a good sign. Just don't let any sign make you call your ex ;-).

Seriously, though, you are right. Take care of yourself and you'll be fine.

Yeah. If you want to read my story, you'll get more details, but basically I was left without really knowing why and I can't really find a flaw in my relationship - except that it was LDR and that...

Yeah. Most of it were signs that I should keep moving on, and a lot of them were signs that I wasn't doing the right thing (like being mean to my ex or things like that). Most of it were in songs. It...

Yep. I saw signs all the time.

This feeling will come and go. And it will happen sometimes even when she's not in your mind. It's weird to be alone again.

The best way to deal with these thoughts is really to remove them...

Why is that coward? You already told her you are done with her. So she shouldn't expect an answer to begin with. Personally, I think cowardice would be to answer any e-mail from her, when she didn't...

Add her address to the spam filter. That way you'll never receive any e-mail from her. I did that and it does wonders.

I think if you'll get a huge boost if you read the initial posts of this thread. You'll feel so much better about yourself!

Now keep going!

Also, about the "get laid and you'll be over it", that is sort of true. I know it's not the consensus here in the board, mostly because it potentially can put you in a deeper mess, but on the other...

I think right now you should try to get yourself sleeping. And you seriously need to stop thinking about her. I don't care how hard you think it is and how impossible it will seem to you. But you are...

Haha. That's all right. I was just vented on one day and then I replied to a couple of comments on the next day.

No worries... I know having her info available to me on Facebook is not the ideal...

Look KC, you can ask me to get rid of Facebook a thousand times and I'll give the same answer every single time.

I can't stop using the website because that would basically mean cutting 80% of my...

Much better today! At least this time I didn't send any stupid e-mail, hehe. I did go to her Facebook page to check it though... last time I went there was in December... there's nothing bad there,...

Well, I do spend some time in forums trying to help other people... It's not like I have a lot of spare time but I do try to keep myself doing something.

I've been mostly fine... from this...

I'm feeling so sad today. I just... I don't know.

Well, crazy... It is indeed hard. Very hard. But this is the only way out. And the fastest too. You did all you could. Now the ball is on her side. Don't wait for a response. Keep going.

Right...

I think you did a good thing. Keep taking steps to move on and don't wait for her response. I think she will reply soon, though. Good luck and carry on with life.

You know what was the worst part of dreaming with my ex? Is that during the dream I was actually happy.

And you know what? All the times I were with her were happy times. It was good man. It was...

There you go.

Haha. True. I don't know. You say that technically you are still together. If you honestly feel that way, dumping her is a solutions, hehe.

I was sort of tongue-in-cheek though. It's not that...

I mean, don't go after any other woman! But apart from that, assume you are single.

Honestly, in your place, I'd call her to tell her it's over. That way you'd be free to do whatever you want...

Such a random event but this night I dreamed of her. I don't know why this things happen. I mean... Really? How much longer do I have to endure missing her? Now that I can manage to not think about...

Well... what I would do in your place is to assume she had dumped you. It'll be for your best.

I haven't yet received any e-mail. And I haven't really been waiting for an answer anymore. Right now, actually I don't even want to have her contacting me again to talk about the past. I mean. I...

Yeah... that is hard. I am not very good at that either... I kind of learned the hard way... by seeing signs that weren't there and being rejected, hehe. And I can't really think of a different way...

Stop talking to common friends, going on Facebook or whatever, man. Leave her alone.

Here's the thing, don't keep us posted about her life. We here do not care about her. We care about you. And...

Dude. Stop right now. Take a deep breath.

Now stay NC. It's only two days! Grow some balls, will you? You know why NC is a show of strength? Because it's f***ing hard! It's harder to do NC than...

Yeah. GIGS is grass is greener. I would probably have written it in more words if I was going to send her. Screw that though. I gave up waiting for the closure. I thought she would give it to me. But...

Following advice, I'll write the e-mail I want to send her right now here.

Hey,

Look, I don't want to know what you are doing with your life. Really. I wish you all the best. But I still need a...

Don't call! Bad idea! Bad idea! Abort! Send her an e-mail.

I'm afraid you are right... But don't talk about other stuff... like that you don't hate her, or whatever. It's pointless. If she asks, just cut it short saying "no". The worse part is talking about...

Haha. Well. It sucks, indeed. I'm still struggling with me ending a 4 years relation (3 months break-up; 1 month NC), so trust me, I'm not speaking without understanding how bad this sucks.

The...

Ok. So you need not to think if she's with someone else or not. Actually you need to stop thinking about her. It's not easy. But you must do this. Don't worry if you catch yourself writing a txt...

No contact. At all. No morning texts. No good night calls. Nothing. LEAVE HER ALONE. If she tries to talk to you, ignore her. She started the NC, now let her feel the pain. Give it at least a month...