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Well, you're stuck in a catch 22. It doesn't really change anything, ultimately. She's going to need to heal and trust you again - if that ever happens. Like I said: she knows how you feel....

She knows how you feel. She called it quits so the ball is in her court.
By the sounds of it she is moving on with her life--- growing. And you need to do the same.

My advice? Leave her...

It's all just a title. There is no definition. Call it whatever you like.

Thanks everyone.

I reread what I wrote last night and saw that I made her sound like a monster and myself an angel.

It's important to acknowledge your own faults and think about them. I was...

It's been about a year since my ex and I broke up.
I've made absolutely zero contact in that time... amazingly enough.

I wish I could say I don't think about her anymore or hurt anymore-- but I'd...

Well I ate a burrito - now I feel a little better.

I think I'll pour myself a drink, put on some Black Sabbath and clean my place. Or maybe I'll go for a swim when this burrito settles.

The...

I lost all my emails the other day and have been furiously trying to get them back. Well, the good news is that I think I succeeded. The bad news is a bunch of previously deleted emails from my...

Embrace it! It's one of the few times where you're allowed to be a suck! ;)

Well none of that really matters right now. It's all about him and his coping at this point. Stressing over the thought of an ex being with someone else only adds to the fire.

I'm OK with most of them. But the 'important' ones? F**k no!

Flowers and all that are OK for certain situations- but sadly your situation is past that. Think of this too.. do you really want to be able to sweet talk your way with flowers to a girl who walked...

Why does this matter.

First things first. You need to worry about yourself 100%. Sounds cliché, but it's true.

Just remember that whatever you do right now will leave a lasting impression on her. If you grovel and...

Guy, you're going to F**K yourself over on this. Let her sit on her own and straighten her life out. She's feeling weak and vulnerable now that what she had with this other person didn't work...

Interesting. You really made being homosexual sound like a disability.

Not a lot of detail here to see if he is actually potentially abusive.

Anymore details on what sets him off? What he doesn't like you doing? Any topic that make you feel like you're walking on...

I agree with the above-- however self reflection is critical. What could YOU do better as a person? Become bigger, better and stronger!

I'll check it out. But, if I'm let down I'm holding you personally responsible :)

I'm scared to listen to anything recent by DM. They are so awesome I'm worried that I will be let down by the new material. I've seen them a few times.. great live show.

Also, I don't know why but putting on some Black Sabbath (Paranoid.. album.. not song... especially) always makes me feel awesome.

How 'bout

He Stopped Loving Her Today - George Jones?

It took me months to get where I am right now. Man, was I ever a wreck. I did almost every bad thing one could imagine... Spending christmas morning with a dollar bill up my nose was my lowest...

4 minutes... 4 days... 4 years.. It's always possible if it's still *there*.

But, this guy sounds like a total a$$hole and if I were you I'd stay clear of him.

It took me some months to deal with being single (booty calls don't count).

But now I can safely say I really am enjoying my "me" time.

Of course, as luck would have it, as soon I've started...

This has been going on so long it seems like it's just a big joke..

Every major breakup I've ever had has been in aug/sept. odd.

You need to talk to her about it. Starting good communication now will help you when you're older.

I don't think you realize this but you are in COMPLETE CONTROL of your situation.

I know you feel like things are spiraling out of control. You just need to sit down at a 'safe' place like a...

What are you doing at a Metallica show anyway? They stopped being any good after Justice!. ;)

Your ex doesn't trust you anymore. You took something sacred and tossed it aside. Do you really blame him?

You're going to be walking on eggshells for a very, very long time.

Yes, Romefalls19...

Yeah, this isn't going so well.

Hindsight is always 20/20. Next time around, I SWEAR!

It really is amazing. This site is like a perpetual shoulder where no one tells you to shut up.

Sounds like a crush to me! Just go and talk to him.

How do you know you love him?

Not sure the exact number of days over all. Basically since I left.. Over 100 maybe 120?

Although, there were 2 quick texts before xmas. One for some mail I had and the other for xmas wishes. ...

From a guys perspective..

-A relationship is a partnership. No slacking. EVER!
-Comfort is a dangerous thing and you should always be alert and on your toes.
-Be supportive
-Listen and be...

It's so rough... we know. And unfortunately the only thing that will make it bearable is time.. lots and lots of time. You seem to be on the right track and you just need to understand that some...

This is another person- not a job or some fancy car he can just 'go for'.

The point of a break or breakup or whatever the hell you want to call it is to CONTINUE LIVING YOUR LIFE - for yourself!...

GROW UP!! There I told.

Karma is much more logical than mystical.

I know I already posted once.. but I cannot stress enough the emotional let down of losing someone a SECOND time. When you get back together you brain and heart do some crazy sh!t. I'm not a...

I got back together with my ex... then we broke up again 6 years later. Second breakup was much more heart wrenching than the first.

This is the great part about love! Best feeling ever. Enjoy it while it lasts because soon she'll be at your throat ;)

It definitely sounds like you need some YOU time before you make any rash decisions.

I don't think you've listened to a single thing here. What you've done is basically justified being a doormat.

Because you're going to turn into a puppydog. In fact, I think it's safe to say you already are a puppydog.

You are going to learn the hardway, huh?

How long we you two together for?

Tough call..

To play it safe I would:

a)tell the girl at your office how you feel if you think there's a shot. Be warned though.. if it's not somewhat mutual your friendship could be strained...

I would say no... but I have a very good friend that has done this with his fiancé on several occasions. It makes me laugh yet I find it somewhat disturbing. I'm sure she knows and doesn't care....