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I think she's already told you what she wants. If you persist in asking her for something she doesn't want, it really won't help.

As for seeing her everyday, yes, you will have to stop. You guys...

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--Cali

Jesus dude, that sucks. What did you say though, what were those "hurtful words"? Anyway, this is going to be painful for a long time. It won't go away anytime soon.

But the fastest way to...

GIRLS rarely come running back. RARELY. Guys do come back more often.

But in general, when it's done, it's done.

--Cali

I read you original post. I actually think this 2 week cycle might continue until you finally break-up. Seems that way anyway. It seems to me like neither one of you is willing to break-up yet,...

You my dear, are completely NUTS! And you can red flag me for that. I couldn't care less. But what is the matter with you?

On what planet is a man who lives with a woman he loves defined as...

Why are you talking to your EX? Listen, if you really are the manwiththeplan, hopefully that plan includes no longer talking to your ex.

SHE'S YOUR EX! What you are doing is exactly what happens...

Well, you're obviously not over her yet. But that's OK. Whatever you are thinking DOES NOT have to be what she is thinking. Who cares what she thinks?

Remove her from you myspace. She's not...

Hmmm... Ask your dad. I'll bet he gives you the right answer.

--Cali

I don't agree with that. If something is wrong in your relationship and you don't address it, it will just go away? Is that what the message is?

I think it's unclear what you mean. But I've...

This won't mean much now, but seriously, DO NOT SWEAT your ex. Let's look at some things she has said. Things that ARE NASTY.

1. You haven't gone to college so you can't relate-- WHAT! Did...

Also, if this is the main thing, perhaps he just had a bad day? Maybe? And he did show up in 10 minutes despite the fact he was having a bad day.

--Cali

No one is EVER READY to lose someone bro. I've lost MORE than one girl that I really cared about. Some because I moved away (distance), some because we just weren't right for each other, and some...

You're making excuses for her bro. STOP DEFENDING HER! SHE CRUSHED YOU 3 TIMES!! You should HAVE SOME SPINE. In fact, you should be FED UP WITH HER. Everything is this situation is backwards. ...

Hey man, this is my advice and you won't like it. SCREW THIS GIRL. She is completely abusing you mentally and emotionally. Your girlfriend shouldn't be a DRUG HABIT she should be your girlfriend. ...

I think you were honest with him. He couldn't handle your honesty. That's his problem. If you tell the someone the truth about how you feel and don't play games, you are always right.

Based...

The hardest thing to do is cut off someone cold turkey. But that is what you must do. WALK AWAY. IT'S OVER.

In some ways, she's just toying with you. Plus, you keep talking to her, you're...

Dude, I've been there. Man, have I ever been there. See thread: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/break-ups-booze-32578.html

You'll stop drinking when you feel less of the pain. After...

And maybe you shouldn't go on any dates right now. Dating will most likely remind you of what you had at this point. Plus, you won't find anyone you really like until you're done with the last...

Yes, I know. I cut off contact with her this week. And I actually did figure out something was up when things weren't going like I thought they should be. I was right.

I realize in this case,...

Run very fast, as far as you can from this girl.

You know that she has MASSIVE ISSUES. You can't help her, she has to do that on her own. Find someone who doesn't need so much help.

--Cali

Hi all. I took another hiatus from the board. Back again for a bit. This is more of a venting then needing advice. I went out on a few dates with this girl. I really liked her. She's quite an...

Well, I spoke some about this with Tal. My ex from the summer came back to me the day after Christmas. WOOHOO right! Wrong. We broke up because it would have been long distance. Anyway, after...

No contact has to be cold turkey. You don't tell anyone that you're no longer contacting them. Just cut it off. That is all.

--Cali

I disagree with Kisha. You don't have to chase your girlfriend. She's your girlfriend. You have to be interesting. The "chase" is at the beginning. Stay interesting though.

--Cali

Call her. She's your girlfriend. I'd call my girlfriend on xmas. Why wouldn't you? To show her you don't care because you have weird misconceptions on her behavior? Stop tripping. The only...

Your paranoia is baseless, is it not? You want her to be your doormat, because you are insecure, and you know that you are hers. Dude, if you gone in with the mentality, "I am going to show her I...

Hey, I'm all alone on Christmas too. Happens to the best of us.

--Cali

Or just recover, and you'll be ready for many more Sues to come. Remember, Sue is trying to win you over. For a time, you're in power. I would bet, this is not Sue forever. She's trying hard...

Hmm... that happened to me when I experienced my worst break-up ever. I met an awesome girl the following week. She was better in every way than my ex, but her problem was, she was not my ex. I...

I'd make a move if you let go of the doubt. But the thing you have to realize is you already have some doubts. If you can let go of your doubts, make the move. Otherwise, it'll be over before it...

Because sex rules! And anyone who has sex with me, I tend to think rules!

--Cali

You send anything to him, you'll just feel even worse. Leave him alone. He's left you alone. You're rubbing salt in your own wounds.

--Cali

The problem with doing what you are thinking, is you have an expectation behind it. You are hoping there will be some response from her. If you can perform your gesture and have no expectations,...

Hey man, you did the right thing. Feeling torn is natural. Pain is natural. You're human, you should feel.

But you did the right thing. It is cold and harsh, but she is not your problem. ...

You should ask Santa Claus.

--Cali

I had a falling out with some friends recently. They're on my Myspace still. I haven't deleted them. Why? Because it's Myspace. Nobody cares.

You're the one holding on. Remove him from...

"What I need is advice not criticism."

No, what you came here for was sympathy for doing something wrong. The person who should be here is your spouse, not you. He is the one who is going to be...

I think you made a very wise and very difficult decision by breaking up with her. Now, MOVE ON. DON'T BE HER FRIEND.

You can't "help" her, or ease her pain. That's not your job. You're an...

If someone asked you if they should continue to cheat on their spouse, what advice would you give?


--Cali

I can't rate Tal. But he's right. FRIENDS = TROUBLE.

--Cali

I am at times shocked at some of the advice people seek. Does the quest for love really make people so selfish and mindless? What type of advice to you give a father of three who is asking if it is...

You should break-up with her dude. It seems like that's what you really want. My most recent ex and I broke up but we stayed in touch. I never closed the door because we had a good relationship,...

Sick of It All! That is a good band.

As for your present case, you're to blame. Why were you waiting for this ONE girl? You let her string you along for no reason at all. You're in college...

Your doubts and insecuritites are leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy. Eventually you guys will break-up. Be careful.

And if you believe the things you're thinking, you should break-up. It...

I don't completely agree with Tal which is rare. I think part of her reaction may stem from the fact that maybe you dropped how you felt at the wrong time. And maybe you did read her right, and...

You guys both sound slightly immature. I was dating a 21 yr old this summer and I'm slightly older then you. She went back home at the end of summer and that was the end for us. No LDR.


One...

Let sleeping dogs lie.


--Cali

I'm in a similar situation. Slightly better because I was in more control of my situation and she was the one who contacted me. But I had already canceled her from my life because she was acting...

In many ways, your behavior towards HER is just like HER behavior towards "LOSER GUY". Have you dated other girls? What about this girl is so special that you kept in touch, tried so hard, and...