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I met this woman about 5 months ago while on business 2hrs away. I was going to be there for a period of 4 months and really wasn't looking for a relationship. She was everything I was looking for...

I totally agree with all of the posts... just remember, never make your significant other "your life". This will in most cases if not all lead to disaster. Each relationship is about two very...

No problem, this place is a great place to reach out for help. Just remember work on you, begin rebuilding yourself and all is well... she's not worrying or thinking of you as often as you are of...

Yes and no, we all have events that trigger what I call an emotional overload which leads to uncertainty. In each of our cases I'm sure that things were fine and there was something that triggered...

It's hard to forget about someone that means so much to you. Try and take up activities that you like doing to occupy your time. Go out with friends and have fun, don't talk about the situation...

I'm going through the same thing right now, we were engaged and she lived with me and just 2 weeks ago after I co-signed for a $20,000 truck. She tells me that she thinks we should live separately...

That's good to hear... your on your way to happiness.

You were doomed from the beginning, both of you were in a relationship when you met. She left her relationship to be with you and you did the same. Didn't you think that would happen to you at some...

Now is the time to start with a new you. Eliminate him from your life, ignore all efforts of contact. Do things for you now... be happy with the single life and learn about yourself. That will...

I hear you, your looking for answers... remember this person is the one that has caused all of this anger in your life. Imagine a life without all of that anger and drama. You will be a much more...

Based on what you have written it looks like you have made up your mind but have not accepted the answer. Your looking for someone to validate you giving this individual yet one more chance.

Ask...

I would take it day by day with this new guy. Don't jump into things too fast... you don't want this to be a rebound type of relationship. You will know when and what to do, your feelings will...

Talaniman nailed it right on the head. It looks like you are clearly head over heals for this woman as I am sure that she loves you to. But she unfortunately has you ranked fairly low on her...

You know... you cannot convince someone that they are in love with you or that they made a mistake and should be with you. She has to do that on her own... by her own terms. You are placing...

Chris... it is always hard when you lose someone you love. No one will ever say it is going to be easy, if it was easy then there was never any love there to begin with. The thing you have to do is...

It may... he might want to see his doctor about any if there are side effects that he may be experiencing...

Find something that you always wanted to do and dive right in head first. I went through and still am going through the same about 3 months ago. For example I am learning to play the guitar, became...

I think you are a bit confused here, yes you love her... but you are not "in love" with her. It takes a lot more than a friendship for that feeling to hit you, trust me you will know when that...

The past is the past, you are trying to fix what happened 4 years ago. Let it go and move on... the only thing that you should look towards is a friendship. To be quite honest I don't think you are...

Unfortunately you may have to talk, it's the only way to "clear the air". Try and sit down one night after dinner and the kids are fast asleep and say something like "darling can we talk about a few...

Sounds like the two of you need to sit down and have a serious "heart to heart" conversation. Lay out all of your concerns and see where it takes you, the two of you have children involved and need...

Take smoothy's advice here... I would lay off the booze for awhile when you two are out and give him the attention... it would be a good start.

Men and women can be friends, its whether both parties are willing to accept that... is the real question. As for him reaching out after 15 years there maybe something there, I would not read into...

I would also add if you choose that path of a renewed relationship... apply what you have learned previously. Stop smothering each other, or you will surely head down the same path again...

Ok... the first thing your going to need to do is go "no contact" from here on out and DO NOT break that for any reason at all. You need to give the space and time that she needs on her own and most...

A couple of questions: How old are the two of you? Are you living together or separately? Your daughter is 2 but you two have been together for only 1.5 years... what happened in those 6 months? ...

You put yourself in a really bad situation here. YOU are the one doing all of the work, he is not. Now he says that he loves you, however have you heard that saying "actions speak louder than...

You have to stop beating yourself up over this. If she was THE ONE the cards would have fell in place a long time ago. As the saying goes "if it was mean't to be it will be". You never contacted...

I think you just answered your own question... I would start by inviting him out with you when you go out... that would be a positive step in the right direction...

The other question is "why are...

Your going have to stop filling yourself with this false hope. In all honesty... I would separate myself from him for now and work on YOU. Once you control all of that "confusion" that you have is...

I think that when a break-up happens we all by instinct want to work it out... or fill ouselves up with hope that they will come back. As for how long... there really is no exact timeframe, everyone...

I thought I would share... I hope it helps some of you :)


If a someone loves you, nothing can keep them away.

If they don't love you, nothing can make them stay.

Stop making excuses for a...

I agree with everyone... take a look back, you did ALL of the work in that relationship. He did very little if any, be glad that it is over and move on. You will be fine... keep your chin up :)

It sounds like you need to get involved in some activities to get your mind off her... that will certainly help. Get way involved into something...

Hey stop torturing yourself man... she knows EXACTLY how you feel. Only when you COMPLETELY let go is when you will be at ease and will get all the answers you are looking for. Let go... be...

"Living the Truth" by Kieth Ablow is another good one

Take Talaniman's advice it is sound and very useful. If you have not already... take anything that you have that reminds you of her and box it up. It may help in your healing... the other is it...

Don't hope... know that you can. Remember only YOU can make it happen and right if you get that second chance. So get positive and don't blow it! OK :)

Natalie,
Your welcome... see you had the answers all of the time. Now is the time to set those values into motion. You will find that special someone... it will happen in time. You just have to...

Natalie,
May I ask how old are you? Then the next question is "What do you want out of a relationship and life?". That question right there might help you in your quest on what you should do. You...

Here is what I have learned based my past situations:
On the verge of break up:

1. If they go, do they love you?
Yes, in fact they in almost every case still do but are not "in love" with you. ...

It will either way... look at this way. If it works out the two of you are together happy and making new memories. If it does not you have learned from this, grown mentally and all of this pain...

She is lost and wants to sort out her emotions and I would have to agree with mckenzie her ex is in the picture in some way, she is thinking about him after all. I would back off and let her come to...

Your doing good, but one thing I want to caution you on. DO NOT read into anything! You going to fill yourself full of false hope. Take this day by day and step by step. Another thing is do not...

Your getting way too many "red flags" here, cut and run. Is someone worth all of this pain and suffering that your going through right now, just to go through it again? I would move on, he clearly...

10 years is an awful long time to spend with someone and to just walk away from it. They may still have some unresolved issues that need to be taken care of. As for her suddenly wanting to be in...

Hey there Bummedout... have some patience everything happens to us for a reason. You have to believe in that... do as many have told you here. If she calls let the voicemail pick-up give it some...

I'm sorry to hear all of this but I think that he has to figure out what he wants in life and if you are going to be a part of it. Only time to himself will solve that little dilemma in his head. I...

You are "normal"... love is a powerful emotion, if not the most powerful that we have. I would try and talk to him about the situation and make him feel at ease. However the whole issue of him...

Yes, we are here to simply help you and possibly the majority of us do not have the qualifications that the authors of your books or your therapist. However keep in mind every situation is...