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I understand your apprehension about shutting her out of your life; I feel the same way about my ex. However, you've already tried being friends, at it seems like it only brings you pain. It hurts to...

You need to get out of the house for a while, get busy. Worst thing you can do is sit at home and let your mind wander.

Happens to me that's for sure. It's easier to deal with if you've got a lot of other stuff going on in your life, but you know that.

Don't be so hard on yourself. It's been what, a week-and-a-half? Of course you're still going to suffer from the fallout. Try to keep NC though. You might miss him, but remind yourself that the pain...

I like your thinking, your attitude. Mindset is very important.

I'm really sorry to hear about your break-up Heart_Line. I'm still in the healing process myself, but in my experience; yes, it does get easier. Like everyone has been saying, you really have to go...

You mean if the relationship lasted for quite some time then, or..

Thank you for this. Will definitely read again.

I can def understand why it bothers you that she's with someone else. For me, even the notion that my ex has hooked up with someone or may have a new boyfriend is unsettling, knowing that it's a fact...

Yup, just a slight bump. I'm glad it wasn't actually her, that would have been embarrassing. I had a few drinks yesterday as well, might have been a few too many... My liver's rejoicing over my new...

Weird thing happened earlier tonight. I was at a club, talking to this girl, getting good rapport. Then I saw my ex (or so I thought). I just froze completely, had to go to the restroom to calm down....

I can def understand that you're pissed off, I would be as well. If I'd found out that a friend of mine had hooked up with my ex, I would've fitted him a new pair of cement shoes... You've dealt...

Like Amicon said, ask yourself if this is really a dealbreaker. If you like him, why would you consider breaking up with him over something like this?

No way are you not going to find someone. Just be patient though, there's no rush. You seem like a pretty resourceful guy, so I'm sure you'll do well for yourself. By the way, I love your whole 'I'm...

You're right, when I'm around other people is pretty much the only time when I'll have moments - however brief they may be - where I don't think about the ex. The semester starts next week. I've also...

I know, I feel pretty lonely sometimes. It's like there's less to look forward to now, like life has less meaning now that I'm alone and I've lost her. It seems a little unfair that she likely moved...

Damn! :) yeah, I think you're right friend. I really have trouble letting go, and I sometimes daydream about getting back together. Whenever that happens, I remind myself that we're not, but I still...

I thought about something earlier; do I somehow hold on to her through the misery, through missing her? Do I have trouble letting go because this is all I have left of her? Because if I begin to...

Well, I had to spread the rep, but damned fine answer Synnen. That was exactly what I was hoping you'd say. It's sad to be forced to close the book on the ex, but it's better than not doing it...
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Sorry to hear that he treated you badly, but at least you're happier now then. I just don't want to end up lamenting the loss of my ex and wishing those days back, that's why I was asking.

Just to clarify, when you guys think of the ex, it's just a happy memory right? It's not like it makes you sad or anything?

How often do you think about killing yourself? I'll be honest, there have been times when I've been so desperate and hurting that I just wanted it to stop, and I've had the same thoughts. It's one...

Vent all you want, no problem.
Going for a rebound sounds like a temporary solution at best though, and it's pretty dishonest and disrespectful towards the new girl. To me at least, that sounds...

Thanks Friend. I don't know if I've fully accepted it yet, I still have to remind myself every day that it's over, that she's not coming back and that it wouldn't have worked anyway. But I'm working...

Signs of improvement, great to see that you're healing. Keep going strong.

I've been thinking along the same lines. The thing is, the ball is in our court when it comes to friendship. Important distinction. You're better off keeping NC and not worrying about whether the ex...

Thanks for replying so quickly guys! I had actually decided to reply, but I figured I'd follow your advice for once, so I deleted her text instead. I feel kind of rotten about ignoring her, I don't...

I got a text from the ex. I was wondering if she would send me one. I figured I'd feel a little validated if she did, knowing that at least she hasn't completely forgotten about me, but still...

Merry Christmas Rome, and merry Christmas to everybody on the site!

Merry Christmas and hugs to you too. Here's to a great 2010 :)

Merry Christmas! :) How's everybody holding up through the holidays? I volunteered at a church-run charity event today, best Christmas I've had in years.

Realizing that it was over was a turning point for me as well (although I have to remind myself of it every day). Thinking about the very end seems like a good trick, I'll keep that in mind myself....

I have my OK moments where I feel like I'll get over her and find someone eventually, and then I have moments where the only thing I can think of is how much I miss her. I don't know if that's...

Your better off being at home right now, away from things as vanheart said. This way it won't hurt your school performance, and you'll be a bit more distanced from the whole thing. Try to do stuff to...

I know what you mean, I've had the same thoughts. But there are lots of people on here who have been through this and worse. We'll just have to have confidence in them when they tell us that we will...

@aiyerrc: Thanks for posting, it goes a long way. How long did we date? This is going to be embarrassing... With all the b'ing and moaning I've been doing since day 1, you'd think we went to...

I actually had a pretty good dip just because of that one short glimpse, amazing how fragile I am at this point. It almost seems a little unfair, I hardly think she was messed up because of it (not...

It's like Friend4U said, if she wanted to say something, it wouldn't have been with a blank email. Either it was a mistake, or she's fishing for some kind of response. Just ignore it in either case,...

You would probably be far worse off if you saw her. I caught a two sec glimpse of my ex today, and it ruined my day. We're better off doing NC.



Yup, same thing for me. Winter blues can really...

I just saw my ex. I was at my local supermarket, and just as I was getting my stuff, there she was, in the beginning of the line, waving at me and smiling kind of shyly. Her hair's a bit longer now,...

Talaniman answered a similar question of mine in my thread. There's always that chance that they don't want to stay in touch, so you have to be ready to accept that if you try to make contact.

Fear and bjohn, seems like we have some similar stuff going on. Being around other people helps to get your mind off stuff, but it all comes rushing back once we're alone again. Drinking doesn't...

She called you because she had a flat tire? She probably just wanted an excuse to talk to you and see what's up.

Today it's been 2 months since she dumped me, so I've been thinking about her a lot today. I just made the mistake of looking at her FB page for the second time since the break-up. She's updated her...

Send a text to the date girl if you want, I wouldn't put too much emphasis on the fact that she didn't respond to that one text. It sounds like it might be too soon to make contact with your ex again...

You had something to distract yourself from your situation, now you don't. Might as well do something to distract yourself anew, like Talaniman suggest. It's awful to suddenly be alone though,...

Thanks for reading my post Dararamm. You're right, seeing her with someone right now would mess me up beyond repair, I'd have to sign up for the Army or something. I'm not sure if I'll ever be ready...

Great to see that you're doing good. You should be careful about avoiding stuff just because it reminds you about your ex though. Not to say that I haven't done the same thing, but in the end you'll...

It hurts to think about, so I know I shouldn't and I try not to, but sometimes I have to face those feelings just to get rid of that nagging pain.