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ooonikki02ooo · Feb 1, 2008, 01:08 PM

Okay so what should you do, if you and your boyfriend breakup but you still act like your together, I mean you still see each other everyday, have sex, basically live together, but when some one asks he says we're not together...

Becca1025 · Feb 1, 2008, 01:14 PM

It's called bootycall. I'm sorry but if he says your not together, and yet your still letting him have sex with you then he is using you.

ooonikki02ooo · Feb 1, 2008, 01:27 PM

That kind of how I felt at first, but the whole thing is, he doesn't see anyone else he is with me all the time! You would honestly think we were together until you ask him... He says that he has commitment issues, We were together for 9 months before this so I don't know

Delow84 · Feb 1, 2008, 02:54 PM

Id say he is looking elsewhere, and keeping your 'relationship' the way it is so its easy to say 'we weren't together and I met someone else' That way he isn't alone.

HistorianChick · Feb 1, 2008, 02:56 PM

If you break up, you need to break up. Otherwise, he is using you for companionship with benefits. If that's OK with you, then I guess its OK.

For me? A guy is ALL with me and I'm ALL with him.

Honey, don't sell yourself short. You deserve a guy that will shout from the rooftops that you're the best thing that's ever happened to him, not someone who wants to be with you, but not with you.

Delow84 · Feb 1, 2008, 02:59 PM

^ Wise words. Id give a greenie but I can't :(

talaniman · Feb 1, 2008, 05:46 PM

As long as he can have you, and not commit he never will, and you can't move on, can you? You deserve better than being a booty call.

nkychic · Feb 1, 2008, 06:02 PM

As talaniman said (sorry Tala... can't rate your answer yet) you are giving him no reason to have to commit. It's the perfect relationship... all the perks no commitment. Unless you are completely happy with the situation (which by this question I'm sure you aren't) than you need to tell him either you all are together or you aren't. Tell him if you both are just going to be together "behind closed doors" than you don't want any part of it. As long as you let this go on, it's going to. Stand up for yourself. You don't deserve this and if this is what he wants... he doesn't deserve you. Good luck girl!

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duck22 · Feb 1, 2008, 06:53 PM

I was in a similar situation before with my ex. We were together for four years then she decided she needed a break. Everything stayed exactly the same and to everyone else we were still together, the only thing that changed was that it said I was single on Facebook. This however lasted about 2 or 3 months before she decided she wanted a real break. Now Im going through what half of the people are on this site. Anyway I thought id share my experience, yours may or may not end up like mine did.

Becca1025 · Feb 2, 2008, 11:08 AM

You think he isn't seeing someone else? Or you know for a fact? IF you are just assuming he isn't seeing anyone else then he is. I have been in your situation sooo many times and I have been in his situation. When he is having sex with you, and yet will not admit he is in a relationship with you then he is more then likely having sex with someone else as well or he has met someone else. I really am not trying to be mean or anything, but you really need to let him go. You're basically setting yourself up for false hope and a huge let down when you realize that he truly a prick. You're letting him have his cake and eat it too. I strongly advise you to stop sleeping with him. Whenever he tries to sleep with you just simply tell him no. I know it's hard but in the end if you do stick your ground you will feel so much better about yourself and be so proud that you did not give in. Guys want what they can't have.

talaniman · Feb 2, 2008, 03:32 PM

Me, I would disappear from his life, and get one that wasn't so confusing. He can't use you unless you let him, so your option is clear, get a life without him in it.

Bammie · Apr 18, 2012, 07:18 PM

My boyfriend always txtin me ,but always saying good ****.. But never pick up his phone.