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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:02 PM
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    I am posting this question because I recently commented on this status that reminded me of wanting some advice. I said this in this questions, "I was talking and seeing this guy from the age of 14 to my current age now 16 and he was 20-22 and he messed my head up so much he knew how to play me and how to make me feel like it was my fault and he hurt me a lot and still does because he still manages to make my heart sink even know I know he messes my head up so I try to ignore him".

    I think I still like him and he still now doesn't leave me alone and I said I try to ignore him but then he says something sweet that makes me weak and I reply and we have tried to delete each other from our lives which I did but then he didn't delete my number and it was hard because we sometimes see each other around. And everything just comes back, and he seems to of changed by him saying more nice comments and that he wished he never let me go and took me back and offered to meet up a lot.

    At one stage I was willing to want to move in with him. What should I do, carry on trying to ignore him, or try and give him another chance?
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:08 PM
    Ignore him. You still have a lot to learn. One of the biggest, most important, and the hardest is that no one 'makes' you do anything. It's a teenage trait to feel like other people run the show. YOU felt like it was your fault. YOU allowed him to mess with your head and play you. YOU let your heart sink.
    Telling you something sweet is just more 'playing with your head' because it's so easy and fun to see you melt all over again.
    STAY AWAY from older guys!
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:09 PM
    You're too young to be "dating" a guy this age...especially if it all started when you were 14. Depending on what went on between you two, he should probably be in jail. At the very least, he is a pig. Also, gathered from your other comment that he lied to you about his age...so what does that tell you? He's a liar.

    Move on. Delete his information. Don't talk to him. Don't contact him. Don't answer him. Stick to people your age. I know, I know....You're "mature for your age" and guys that are your age just don't do it for you.... Think about it. He's using you as nobody that age should be interested in someone your age except for the wrong reasons.
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:13 PM
    Thank you both for the advice, I just thought it would be me because at age of 20-22 I thought he would be mature! And yeah I have been told by some of my mates that he would be in jail by now if I reported it but just needed some advice from people that has more experience and is more mature and to see if what I am sharing is right in a relationship
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:15 PM
    No, at 20-22 he is not mature....but he is using you and if he has had sex with you, he should be reported.
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:20 PM
    But he hasn't that the thing, he has tired when I was 15 and just did the normal stuff like kissing in that meaning normal but my mates say it was more grooming by the things he said and acted. But thanks though!
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:22 PM
    Yes, grooming is the word.
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:24 PM
    Okay thanks, besides it my fault for letting him do that to me anyway. But thank you for the advice it was helpful and I'm going to ignore him.
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:30 PM
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    Okay thanks, besides it my fault for letting him do that to me anyway. But thank you for the advice it was helpful and I'm going to ignore him.
    The next time there is any kind of contact, tell him to "go away and stay away" or you will report him to the authorities.
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:33 PM
    Thank you, will try that and will the authorities be Interested because I am 16 now? And if they are not now won't he know that.
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:52 PM
    Maybe you could change your number, I know it's a pain to give it to everyone again but at least he can't contact you that way. Every time he says something nice to you and makes you feel good just try to remember why you left him and how he made you feel then. You said he knows how to mess with your head just remember that!
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    Jan 17, 2015, 02:57 PM
    Thank you, and I would but I'm on contract and I will remember the times he hurt me or made me feel crap, that should be easy. Cheers
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    Jan 17, 2015, 03:04 PM
    You are on ' contract' on your cell? OK change your cell number, get another provider but if you really WANT to get out from under DO IT. Obviously you don't want to. So stop posting !
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    Jan 17, 2015, 03:06 PM
    I can't change it because it is in my grandad name and he won't change it for me!
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    Jan 17, 2015, 03:07 PM
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    I can't change it because it is in my grandad name and he won't change it for me!
    Tell him why you want it changed.
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    Jan 17, 2015, 03:10 PM
    I have and he won't listen to me, he to busy to sort it out he says, look I will just ignore him and try and get on.

    and thank you for all of the advice.
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    Jan 17, 2015, 03:12 PM
    I'm not sure if you can do it on every phone but on my phone I can put in people's numbers that I want to be blocked. If not if he rings don't answer, if he messages don't read it delete it. Eventually if you don't respond he might move on
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    Jan 17, 2015, 03:14 PM
    Okay thank you, and yesh that a good idea and can you do that on iPhones?
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    Jan 17, 2015, 03:18 PM
    Yeah you can its pretty easy just goggle it, and it tells you how that's how I did it.
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    Jan 17, 2015, 03:20 PM
    Okay thank you will search now. Cheers!

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