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Sep 27, 2012, 03:46 AM
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A relationship story, need real answers please
Been together for about 8 years now, I'm 32 and she is 26 now, we been in good harmony and we both admitted that we have brain connection even our interests not one but we knew that we complete each other, we raised different ,I raised in some how rich family and she from not so well family conditions ,even her father in my last meeting with him he told he have doubts that my family would accept it so,any way my girl raised in hard condition alone raising her young sister and been as mother for her, never had any fun as other girls do, her mother was always blame her that she left work to raise her, even she told her one day leave your boyfriend,my girlfriend laugh and told yes and you marry me ,her mother said if I can I would, her father always away due to his work at sea, and our relation as all relations went throw ups and downs, and critical things starts after my girlfriend graduated from marine academy, she wanted to work at sea and in beginning I refused as I have my own business and told her we better work together in it and she refused and start search for work at sea and no use, till she got bad job at sea as seaman,clean and so on and people treated her too bad,she fall down in stress,and we had 6 months away from each other while she was their and we call and text each other ,before she come back she called told she want to break up,and made million excuses and then one night she called and told that she lied to me and that she was meeting with 2 people from 5 years ,too old people,and slept with them and she regret and she feels she lied to me and don't deserve to be with me, I got mad sure and so on, and we met after she back and I made huge scandel at her parents home,and left it, but we didn't break up and I told I need time to accept it ,and from my anger I told that I cheated to her while she been at sea to make her hurt,and left, and for another 4 months was talking to rare,daily SMS or call but too rare, and she lost her job after due to female rule at sea ,and I came back to her,after I healed from all this ,and toldmher that I lied and didn't cheat her and so on,she told she feels rejected from me and that I allowed to hurt her say this and so on, and last 3 months we back to each other and planned to move to live with each other,before we move by 1 month she told she don't want to live with me,and she know that I will hurt her ,as usual I start to be all around her, calls ,text,and she refused to meet me, and told we need to break up, I refused innbegining then agreed and told if this whatnshe want I agree,and she told better not break up but break, I told we already have break long time,so we to be together or not ,and she told she needs time, what couldn't get that she say leave me please but she still call,and answer my calls and send texts back, and two days ago she told she go to village with her mother and this I know it's too far village where no people at all around and no mobile connection and all, sorry for all the mix in my talks but I tried to make full view, I got email from her today, that she is going to village today ,wishing me to have good time,and beg me to let her in peace, and to take care of myself
I really don't kow what to react, should I be silent no contact or as I see the problem now in non security feelings she have and non trust and she need to know that I love her as she always later say I don't love her anymore
Sure she said too much bad about me and remmbered only bad in our relation
What to do? And how to keep her feel I care as I really do and want to her back
She also became real mentally not stable and many times sent me SMS that she want to kill herself
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