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Need some advice myself. I was seeing my girlfriend for 6 months. We had some teething problems at the start however the last 2 months were great. Then she joned the police and in the police college things went pear shaped. After a month she started being off with me and told me she didn't know how she felt about me i.e. if she loved me or even missed me anymore. She said she didn't know what she wanted and couldn't give me an answer. This lasted 3 weeks. Then one day I got lots of missed calls from her and a text saying she owed me a big apology and that she had a really bad day, she couldn't or didn't want to do this without me. We agreed to meet 3 days later to talk about it but then when the day came she said she had to work late on a case study and text me saying "we need to talk".

Texts went back and fwd and basically she said she had too much work to do and didn't have any time for me, that I deserved someone who could devote time to me. Fair enough but I told her I would wait for her its only a few months. Then she said she was likely to be posted far away, my response being Northern Ireland is a small country. I did the wrong thing and pleaded with her for days to have me back which was no help at all. Then she started making excuses that we the last 6 months weren't great, we were just different people and that we want different things. I called to her house to pick up my stuff and she wouldn't even let me into her house saying she can't have me there.

That's when I started thinking that these reasons were just excuses and that she had probably had sex with someone else as the college is renound for it. I got my angry defensive head on and we had a major fallout. Now she has told me we should go our separate ways, to stop contacting her and I think she hates me. She still has some of my stuff though.

I really love her to bits. Im trying to stop contacting her but its really hard. I never thought it would be so hard.; I really want her back but I'm not even sure if she wants to be friends right now. I have stressed her out and she needed space in the college to get through it.

We had a relationship whereby we contacted each other every day and now she doesn't even contact me. Its so confusing

Sorry guy, there is nothing confusing to getting dumped. The confusion only comes when we don't bow out gracefully, keep our dignity, and self respect, and accept that for whatever reason this didn't work out, its time to move on.

Begging and pleading sheds a bad light on us, and further pushes them away, and even suddenly showing up in person, under the guise of getting "our stuff back" is an immature move, and upsetting at best.

Don't know what stuff you want after only six months, but if it can be replaced, do so, and learn from this experience, as you also heal from the hurt feelings, by leaving her alone.

When situations and circumstances change, we have to adjust, and cope with our feelings in positive mature ways.