Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    RlyOut's Avatar
    RlyOut Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #1

    Feb 20, 2009, 08:33 PM
    Relationship Confusion
    I have know this man since high school. After graduation we went our separate ways. After 23 years we run back into one another both single and we start dating about 15 months ago. We had very long detailed conversation about our expectation in the future. Our initial conversations covered, marriage, children both existing and future possibilities, careers, education, spirituality and family. After seven months we move into my house together and now eight months later he wants to continue to date but move back in a place of his own. Nothing drastic or even small has happened. He says that he needs his quiet time. So what do you think it really is?
    UnluckyDucky's Avatar
    UnluckyDucky Posts: 210, Reputation: 110
    Full Member
    		  
    #2

    Feb 20, 2009, 08:46 PM
    Prior to you two moving in together what was his living situation? He may just miss having his own place...

    Are you seeing any red flags such as: decreased affection or intimacy including sex, brief or short answers to your questions, decreased communication, or any other change in "normal" behavior?

    If not, you probably don't have anything to worry about. He just might need his own space and quiet time.
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
    		  
    #3

    Feb 21, 2009, 09:41 AM

    Do you have any reason not to just take his word for it? That's a way for people to slow things down, as he may not have voiced it, but his feelings have changed and he no longer wants to see you everyday, and night. That would be my guess.
    heartbroke's Avatar
    heartbroke Posts: 163, Reputation: 24
    Junior Member
    		  
    #4

    Feb 21, 2009, 01:07 PM

    Sounds like he's pulling away slowly. Have you seen any signs like the ones Unlucky or Tal suggested?
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

After a 4 year relationship I got tired of my relationship and broke up! What to do? [ 2 Answers ]

I’m a gay guy (36 yo) and I dated for 4 years this BI guy(40 yo), at the beginning it was a bit hard for me, I’m very comfortable with being gay! Came out 8 years ago, any way, at the beginning of the relationship I had to pretend in front of his friends that we were just friends, some times after...

New "relationship" - Confusion! [ 8 Answers ]

Just got back in to the dating scene after a 4 year relationship and I really don't know how to do this. How long should he be chasing me? And how long until I should be making the initiatives with dates, calling, etc. I don't want to be to pushy. So, I started seeing this guy about 6 weeks...

Co-worker relationship confusion [ 4 Answers ]

I had been working at this new job for only about 2 weeks, when the holiday party came up. A fellow co-worker I had been eyeing was there and we got to talking and I realized how much chemistry we had together (as did he). We started flirting a little more and more at work, then he asked me to hang...

Relationship confusion [ 2 Answers ]

:( IM SO SAD I Don't KNOW WAT TO DO. Our relationship started a year back from now. At start we were just friends, then gradually we turned into best friends and then he became my boyfriend. He used to love me a lot. I often used to think can someone love someone in this way? He could do literally...

CONFUSION in a relationship- if you can call it one [ 11 Answers ]

I really like this Senior, I am a Freshman. We've become really good friends over the course of the past few months. He's got a lot of friends, and I'm just one of his new ones. Hes one of those guys that Hugs all his friends. My friend was IMing him and they started talking about me (Ikes) ...

View more questions Search