My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 1 year and a half. We were so happy together and rarely have any fights. This wasn't the first time we have this issue. My boyfriend have this feeling of missing something from me for a long time. We have a talk about this before but we never solved it. We were supposed to meet and talk to solve it but we avoided it. We just go off and continue like we are on a date.

He said he loves me but he wants something more from me. He asked me why I'm always quiet when I'm around his friends. Well its true :/ Im very shy and I do have friends but I stopped communicating with new people I'm in fear of being stabbed in the back and what people think of me because I had been bullied since elementary. When I want to say or ask something, I can't... Like my voice can't come out. Also, I'm a jealous person and he knows that. I tried very hard not to be whenever his female friends talked/texted him or touched him.

But then I don't think I'm worrying about myself being jealous anymore. Im kind of more worried about me not being very sociable. I know he likes talkative and energetic girls. Sometime, I wondered myself, why does he like a girl like me. He said he's fine with me the way I am. Then recently he brought the same issue again. And he told me that he is sorry, that he doesn't want to make me sad and that he wants a break.. after saying that he wants a break, he still called me honey, what does that mean? :(

After that, we didn't talk to each other for like a day.. I can't handle not talking to him for a day... :( it hurts :( We are going to meet on Sunday to have a talk.. how am I going to face him, I'm so afraid of him leaving me... Having a break doesn't mean that we actually breaking up right.. I can wait for him right.. what should I do.. please help... thank you...

I think he just wants you to express yourself honestly. Like find your voice. How old are you both?

I'm 18, he's 22

I don't think you wait for someone at all at this age. You either resolve your issues through honest communications, or the relationship falls apart. Yes it sucks to admit one partner has a change of mind, feeling, and heart for the other one, and no one wants to get dumped, but it happens all the time.

It's tough after a year and a half, to even admit it may be over, despite his sweet words that give you hope, but for your own good, since he wants space give it to him, and let the decision to be with you be on JUST him. Bad enough to be dumped, but worse to lose your dignity and self respect in the process. That sucks even more and even harder to recover from because you do that to yourself.

Take this time to work on yourself, and your issues, and build your own life that makes you happy, as you recognize that he has been telling you for a long time he isn't as happy with this relationship as you are. I think right now you have come to depend on him a bit too much, and that's understandable, but bottomline is he isn't that happy anymore.

Happens all the time with young love (and old love) after the lust has faded, and the love has NOT grown. Still sucks to be dumped, and space is being dumped. Don't let the sweet words fool you.

Have you never ASKED specifically what is that extra something he wants from you? What did he say?

Space and taking a break, normally just means a break up.
It is time to try and make it work.

But. I am sure, he has issues also. But.
Everyone has to make some new friends, and not talking at all to his friends, will not ever work, with this boy, or any boy. You may as well figure out, making new friends, that may require counseling, if you have a lot of problems on this.

His friends, not sure, what type of touching, but no, girls that are not girlfriens normally do not touch the boy a lot. How much are they texting, what are they saying?

Jealous is normally a sign of being insecure, along wth not being able to go a day without talking to him.

Try not to think of yourself having 'faults' that may cause the end of your relationship, simply because someone wishes you were not who you were.

To change someone, or expect someone to change, in order to suit their tastes better, or what kind of characteristics they want to see, is a lot of pressure to put on someone. It is the same sort of thing when a woman is badgered about her weight, or her poor cooking/cleaning/organizing skills- or any other number of things that a partner sees as a 'fault'.

Your boyfriend has told you he likes you just the way you are, and maybe thinks you would be more sociable if you were encouraged to be more outgoing, but that too is an expectation from him, that you may not be able to fulfill, because what he wants, is just not comfortable for you. Particularly in social situations.

That being said, the other side of that coin is jealousy, coming from you, which probably makes him uncomfortable in social situations, knowing you feel that way. You feeling insecure and jealous is easily one of the top 10 reasons relationships break up.

So, it may not be just you, or just him, but both of you were maybe just not compatible enough to make a relationship work. You are the way you are, and he is the way he is. If the differences cannot be worked out, then it is time to move on.

And yes, when one says they need a break, that is a strong sign, pointing to the end of the relationship. It is easier than coming right out with it, but it means the same thing. Couples who are committed to each other, work out problems- together- not apart.