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    Dec 2, 2008, 04:59 PM
    Reittirate about Break Ups
    Ive only just come back to this site after a break up, been single for a good couple of months now, and man I'm feeling good. I was with this girl for nearly for 3 years, and yeah I had an awesome time with her, still miss her and stuff but you do get over loved ones.

    When I broke up with her a literally thought it was going to be the beginning of the end for me, christ almighty, I thought my life was going to be awful, even worse than awful, so crap in fact that I wernt ever going to wake up again the same guy. I know look back at myself and laugh, I can't believe what I done to myself, it was literally torture.

    Riiight, I split up with this girl and was absolutetly miserable, decided the best thing was to go into no contact and eventually I cracked and called her, (what a shame) and that sadly did cause a setback, so my week of effort basically just blew back in my face, sad times indeed. After that I continued with the no effort, and after reading the sticky up top several times, (thankyou by the way that was fairly inspirational, and I suggest any one who is going through a breka up read it because it is the truth) I decided I was going to go for it.

    Everyday the pain would edge out of my body, little by little as oasis would say, and eventually I decided that I was going to go out and find myself someone who was nice, attractive and awesome to hang out with, and after a couple of weeks of searching I came across someone via Facebook, I've now been to dinner with them, been cinema and she's been round my house a couple of times so its all gravy.

    I found out that Tammi (my girlfriend) was seeing some one else, and yes it hurt, I cried, but then I thought well she's happy I'm happier than I've been in a long time so what's the problem. Then I realised how selfish it was of me getting mad because she's with someone else, and that the problem didn't lie in me and her not being together but I actually didn't want her to be with anyone else. So I confronted them issues and I felt that I've become a better person for it, and actually manage to admit that these last two months have been an awesome education for someone who seemed so immaturely minded a while back.

    Basically I'm starting to go into my life story :) but I just wanted to re itterate that its painful, every oens different and takes things in a different manner, but I want to re assure you like everyone else on this forum that you WILL get over it, may not be any time soon, but it will happen a lot faster if instead of moping about on here you get yourself out there and look forward to the good times coming round the corner, because I assure everyone that they will do. I wouldn't change anything I've done, no regrets, feels good and I know that everyone on a down will feel better to if they look at things in a different light :D
    Thanks xx
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    Dec 2, 2008, 05:15 PM

    Good post G33zer!

    Hope you came out the other side having learnt something :)

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