Well, I need advice big time, it all started when my boy friend was avoiding my for about 2-3 weeks and I thought he had another affair but he didn't but I just wanted to be sure, so I told a friend of mine to message him on this site and she did, he also stared talking to her even up to the point to go see her. When I saw all this I just printed up all those papers of what he and she talked about and threw it in his face and we broke up.I was so upset that I even told this other friend of mine to go to his house and tell his family that oh he was at my house last night and he left this shirt on my bed, not only did I do that to him but my friend also keyed his car.. (not the best way to make things better).. so anyhow we ended up back together and I blamed everything on my friend and said she told me to do this and that... but in the end it was my fault because I did set him up and all he did was really love me and care.. I found out the hard way.. so last night I told him the truth after having a fight and I though we broke up but it turned out my sister had called him and told him a lot and because of that we stayed tog and now I feel even though were tog we so far apart and he said he needs time and things will be OK...
How do I make things OK what can I do to prove to him that I only did all that for attention as childish as that sounds... please write back I don't wnna lose the love of my life and I really want to save this realionship??

The most effective way to regain someone's trust is to give them time to heal. Being clingy or acting desperate is extremely unattractive, and it will continue to remind him of your "childish" attention-seeking behavior. Your boyfriend is most likely in a state of confusion, and is asking for your patience while he sorts out what he really wants. Remember all of the drama you caused over a small misunderstanding - keying someone's car and throwing papers in someone's face are very inconsiderate actions. If, vice versa, your boyfriend had done the same to you, I'm sure you'd need time by yourself, as well. By putting yourself in his shoes, it displays your thoughtfulness and willingness to change for the sake of the relationship (but you must really want to change), and if he still cares about you after all of this, he'll notice, through your waiting for him, that there is still a chance to repair the damage. Try to leave what you did behind, but next time something confuses you (if he is avoiding you or acting differently for no apparent reason), don't jump to conclusions, but calmy discuss with him how you feel. Communication is vital in a relationship, and must be done. Good luck :) !

Hello.

Its going to take time so relax and don't push him. Be there and show him you care but don't over do it. Don't do things you normally wouldn't do to make him like you.

You should offer to pay for the repairs to his car.

Dennis777

I did offer but it actully made him more upset after I said that... he said " are you trying to say i dont have money" when that was not how I meant it

How much time do you think he'll need before he comes around?

You can't really determine how much time someone will need to heal from this type of situation. It varies from person to person, but when and if he "comes around", you'll know. Just try to be patient - it will prove that you've changed.

I will deff try to be patient thank you so much for your advice I really appericatte it
Take care

I think you should leave him alone and work on your own issues as your insecurity and temper make you do some crazy wild stuff. Unless you get yourself more under control, you will drive this guy way. It's a big red flag when our partner avoids us.