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cutiegirl0311 · Mar 11, 2009, 08:36 PM

Ok, I really need your advice.
We are the same age and we love each other for two years two months. He just told me "Can we be friends" two days ago. I was really sad. The reason was that we fight a lot over little issues recently. I do not trust him because I think that he goes out with some girls, but he actually not. Because I know all his guys and girls friends.Maybe he feels tired because I demanded too much. He said that if we continue, it would be suffer for both him and me.
I regret now and few really bad. I cried a lot when he asks me to be friend. And he cried too. But I told him that I would be okay, and let's be friends with each other.
However, I really miss him... a lot , because I really care for him.I ust sent him an e-mail showing him my thought and feeling, hope that he will be happy with his new life. However, I still hope that one day, he will ask me to be his again.
What should I do now? I stop calling and texting him, because I think that he needs space.
Cutie Girl!
Thank you a lot! Pleae hep me ot

arnimal7 · Mar 11, 2009, 08:51 PM

Hi Cutie, You pretty much answered your own question. Stop calling and texting and give him his space. He needs his space right now. The last thing you should do is come across as a stalker. Trust me, you don't want that. Time will tell. Just focuss on yourself right now and the cards will land where they shall. You will be fine.:)

cutiegirl0311 · Mar 11, 2009, 09:29 PM

Thanks a lot. I'm trying toget over it still. I know all his passwordsand stuff, so I often look at them. I am trying to stop doing those.Howver, it is really hard or me right now. I feel like I lose one of the most important person in my life because I love him so much. I am still crying...

arnimal7 · Mar 11, 2009, 09:51 PM

I understand your tears of frustration, and 2 years and 2 months is along time. However looking at his info(passwords) will only drive you crazy. Sometimes it is better to not know then to know. I was is a situation like that a while ago so I can sympathise and empathise with you. So I would lay low and see what happens, and hey, if things don't work out you will be just fine. Be strong.:)

friend4u178 · Mar 11, 2009, 09:57 PM

Its very hard to not be tempted to look at his stuff if you have his passwords.

Tell him to change them , that will give you one less temptation.

talaniman · Mar 12, 2009, 05:51 AM

Make this a clean break, so you can heal eventually with time.

Chillaxguy90 · Mar 12, 2009, 05:56 AM

I've actually just went through a situation very similar to this not very long ago. My ex broke up with me because she didn't share the same feelings as I did, It would be easier to break up now then later, she still wanted me very much in her life but as a friend, etc. This devastated me. We would go only a few days without talking before I or she called again. Every time we would talk, I would sweet talk her to try to win her back. I loved her after all. I did notice that we were starting to fight more and more everyday, over stupid things that shouldn't have matter. Then finally, the worst happened. We got into such a huge fight, she decided to end our friendship as well. Now, not only have I lost her as my love, but now as a friend.

What I'm trying to say here is, don't push too hard to get back together. Like everyone is saying, give him space and take time to yourself to heal. If you push too hard you may lose him completely. If he's meant to be with you, he will come back. But don't wait, start the healing process now. This way if he does move on, you won't be hurt quite so bad. I wish you luck.

Romefalls19 · Mar 12, 2009, 05:57 AM

You can't be friends until you are properly healed. It's that simple

cutiegirl0311 · Mar 12, 2009, 04:02 PM

Thanks a lot for your advice.
But I wonder if I still have any chance to get back with him. I have not heard about him from my friends 3 days already... and I think that no one know that we broke up because I think that he have not yet said anything to anyone. (He and I hang out with te same group of friends). Yeah, so he has already read my e-mail and have not replied me back... I really miss him nw. I am trying my best. Your advice help me stay stronger..
Thanks a lot!

Chillaxguy90 · Mar 12, 2009, 04:20 PM

Trust me, I know how you feel. 3 days feel like an eternity, especially if you are use to talking to him every day. But I promise it will get easier. They say it takes about half as long as you dated the person to get over them.

As for your friends, it's possible that he hasn't told them cause he feels horrible as well, and isn't quite ready to talk about it yet.

With the e-mails, it's possible he isn't ready to talk to you yet. To be blunt actually, don't send him anymore. Avoid communication as much as possible, at least for now. It'll only make it harder for you both, fooling your mind that nothing has happen. Which in all, will delay the healing process. And that's what you need to do, heal. Go out, talk with friends and family, anything that will distract your mind.

Stay strong, remember we are here for you.

cutiegirl0311 · Mar 18, 2009, 12:34 PM

Thank you a lot. I am getting better. I just met him yesterday, and he talked and asked mesome questions. I tried to e normal and happy. Yeh, I think I can get over him now. Thanks a lot!