Okay, everyone already has to know how desperate I am if I came on to see what other people thought. To make sure everyone is up to speed so you guys can give me honest and accurate advice, I'll give the whole story. Starting from the very beginning so bare with me.

I moved to a new city last year, when I was 16, and joined the swim team, including the high school team as well, I had always gotten along with boys better then I did girls, yeah I have a fair share of girlfriends, but being that I grew up with an older brother, I just relate better to guys, video games, etc. anyway, I was always friends with one, from the very beginning, it has been I think 8 months now, and I always viewed him as a little brother somehow, I don't know the reason, anyway, I started liking him more then a friend I think since March, we joke around and talk and everything, I have been over to his house a couple of times with other guys from the swim team, which we are friends too, we drove together to practice a couple of times, but it seemed like it would just be off and on, I have the annoying tendency to make things awkward once I realize I like a guy, which is a major fault that I have which just makes this much more difficult.

So - one week we will be talking and joking, acting normal, and then the next, it would only be short little conversations and that would just consist of what our intervals were for the swimming workouts during practice. In the start of June I went off for 2 weeks for vacation and we were normal and casual before I left and now that I got back he has been asking me along with another guy on the swim meet to go out for breakfast or some random thing after practice in the morning. I have never had a boyfriend, so I'm not experienced at all in this field as you can tell, and yet I always have my friends ask me for relationship advice, its just weird that I can help other people but I can't help myself when it comes to things like this.

I think he has the intention of dating me, we joked around about it in a conversation with someone else, and I'm comfortable about it and I think he is too, but I just don't have the courage to bring it up and I'm kind of old fashioned, I want him to bring it up, not me.

Okay, now that you have the whole low-down, what should I do? Should I wait for him, but if I do I'm just worried that he'll miss read my signals and just think I want to be friends. And I don't think I can ask him myself, first off, I wouldn't really know what to say, and second, I'd hate putting myself out there when I'm not completely positive whether he really likes me or not. And I do like him, and I would really like to date him. We're the same age, just to throw that out there.

So, what should I do? Advice is much appreciated. :o

Sounds to me like the guy likes you and is just too afraid to act on it, if u really do want a relationship with this guy try inviting him out just the 2 of you and see what happens, if u are still confused about it after that you may have to just give in and ask him on a date yourself

Maybe while you are having fun you just ask him to hangout, just the two of you. If your afraid to communicate and clear the air, then he probably is too. Work together so you both overcome your fears.

Nothing wrong with being old fashioned, but be flexible and open minded. And understanding.

:)

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