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be1013 · Jun 22, 2008, 06:02 PM

Well, where do I start?
All right so my boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years and that's pretty fricken good for a high school relationship!

A couple months after our one-year, he started getting a little distant and we constantly argued, so we took a break for about a month.
Once we got back together things were better than ever.
It's been 6 months since that happened and things got really bad and he makes me feel so insecure and unnoticed it's horrible. And when I tell him that he doesn't even realize that he does.
I know he loves me but I just want us to both be happy.
What should I do?

talaniman · Jun 22, 2008, 07:00 PM

it's been 6 months since that happened and things got really bad and he makes me feel so insecure and unnoticed it's horrible. And when I tell him that he doesn't even realize that he does.

How does he do that??

be1013 · Jun 22, 2008, 07:09 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

How does he do that????

Well he seems to be more interested in hanging out with other people, even girls. And he used to do anything just to talk to me, we would talk on the phone for hours and now he has this excuse out of nowhere that he doesn't like to talk on the phone.

talaniman · Jun 22, 2008, 07:32 PM

If he is making you so miserable and insecure, have you told him, and has that changed anything?

If it hasn't why are you putting up with it??

bigbird213 · Jun 22, 2008, 08:35 PM

Just for the record, your relationship is probably at the make or break point now. Its time to really evaluate it and see if it is worth continuing. The early stages of a relationship are almost always great, but after that period, the bonds really get tested and you get to see what the two of you are made of.

Perhaps he is just realizing that its not what he wants, or it isn't going the way he wants to. Thus his attention and his focus is elsewhere (his friends, etc). Hard to tell, but I think you need to have a serious conversation with him. If nothing changes, get out.

confused1145 · Jun 22, 2008, 08:58 PM

The two of you really need to have a long talk. If he doesn't make an attempt to look at things from your point of view then maybe the relationship may not have a chance. A relationship is not all about taking, he has to give as well. Hopefully the two of you can work through it. Maybe you need some additional time apart to evaluate your relationship.

be1013 · Jun 22, 2008, 10:28 PM

Well he says he doesn't mean to hurt my feelings and he really feels bad. But I just don't understand how someone can do the things he does and not keep their promises as much as he does.
I don't want anybody else but him and he says the same but I just would like him to prove it once in awhile, you know?

talaniman · Jun 23, 2008, 07:15 AM

For sure if you two can't, or don't communicate, and figure how to solve your problems, then the relationship may need to be reevaluated. When actions don't match the words, that's not a good sign.