I will never forget my first Ex she was the first I slept with and we dated for Four Years and what a rush it was!! I was 20 she was 16 I was having the time of my life enjoying some of the best times of my life going out partyying doing what all young people should be doing Having Fun!! The years flew bye She was blonde and hot and chased me ecverywhere, she was aggressive and loud would cry more than be happy I was a wild guy many times she told me to choose between patying and her and I just said well you know wheree the door is (we didn't live together). I new she wasn't going anywhere and the relationship continued on she would do anything I want couldn't believe I had such a hot girl and she kept trying to get me more and more, not to me knowing but the more I pushed her away the more she kept coming!! It was wild we had fun down the park the beach the neighbours house while they were away!! I will never forget those wild times...
Then bang all of a sudden the tables turned a bit she got to age 20 and she started to do her own thing more and I started to chase a bit and before you know it I was out!!

Well I was so upset and had to move on she had a new guy!! I thought Geez I did wrong by her and was pissed at myself... But now I look back at it and laugh Im 28 and have since met a girl who is way more normal and doesn't get jealous although she recently du,mped me cause I turned into a wuss!! But anyhow talking about my first Ex she then contacted me 6 months later but I had moved on and boy do we have a laugh about it now at the family functions!! All my family say is where is she now!! She was a bit of a psycho always calling my house coming around looking for me screaming yelling abusing and yet my mum even caught us once going for it in the back yard, Boy this girl would do anything I wanted I couldn't get enough!! That was a great time in my life and this is the story of my first Ex.

To help many people who think they will never get over there first Ex I think you will!! I am glad that I did not end up with hER!!

ALTHOIUGH NOW MY SECOND EX OF 3 1/2 YEARS GOT RID OF ME MAYBE I GET TO COMFORTABLE!! I LOVE THIS ONE WITH ALL MY HEART AND AM STRUGGLING BUT MUST PUSH ON!! ANOTHER AMAZING CHAPTER IN MY LIFE AND I SAY I WILL ONLY GET STRONGER FROM THIS!! LOVE IS MADE I HJAVE NO DOUBT AND WITH THE RIGHT TECHNIQUES CAN BE CONTROLLED!! ONE SMALL SLIP AND IT MAY BE ALL OVER SO STAY TRUE AND GET OVER THE FIRST EX AND THINK ITS TIME TO GROW AND FIND SOMEONE SPECIAL! GOOD LUCK ALL!!

Nobody ever forgets someone who was close in your heart but one day you will remember the fond times and be pleased for the life you have now. It is better to have loved and lost than not to have at all. Or those experiences and lessons you had would have never existed and I for one have learn t so much and I am glad at 21 to you have gone through what I have done now rather than later. All the books, forums etc I have visited especially this one has taught me so much about life. Love is one of those things which make and break life it depends on how you handle it and every time it really does make you stronger.

Thought I would add this to this thread.. Hope you don't mind Mckenzie, but I believe others will also identify with what you are going through.. You can still pm me if you need to talk.. Take it easy..


Like my ex, I believe your ex was growing this idea of leaving you for a long time, perhaps anything up to 6 months... She used the comment by the friend as an excuse. She probably wanted out badly but may not have wanted to hurt you because she probably cared for you.

My ex did not categorically leave me for another man. She did however hint that she missed being single and flirting with men and possibly wanted to experiment...

This happens often to young women and although the thought will make you physically sick, you cannot deny that this is not a great possibility for your ex. I am not saying she is easy but she may need time to find herself. This could manifest itself in numerous ways and this is an important part of her growth mentally and physically.

This is what you must accept and realise that you can never control the inevitable but you can learn from experiences and grow emotionally.

Love will find you again, you just have to move on and in time, these feelings of sadness, anger, resentment will fade into something much more tolerable.

Take it easy..

I hope I never remember my first Ex?

How come if you don't mind me asking?

If you read my thread "Is my Ex fiance coming back again" and "I think my ex fiance is coming back again" that should explain it everything. And my head is clearing up so I'm thinking of stuff that wasn't posted. And my letter to ex.

I like what you said up there Geoff! : )

It hurts me a lot when I here what my ex has been up to, but hey live and learn.

Mmmmmm...

I know buddy..

Sadly (or actually not) mine is left down to imagination and I can only speculate on what my ex is up to but that has nothing to do with me anymore. Still plays with my mind though.

I'm going to be honest now...

Sometimes, especially over the past few weeks, I have been thinking of contacting her and asking her if she would like to reconcile as a friend but I know that this is the wrong thing to do and won't do it. After 8 months post breakup, she is long gone... but it makes me kind of sad inside to know that we could never be friends. Its just a passing thought I guess... She may even be dating someone new by now and I am probably long forgotten.. LOL

But that's o.k...

Life goes on and has for me just like everyone said it would.