Hey Everyone,

I would like to know we feel about the ability to communicate when dating? Are the cell phones, msn, and email killing new relationships by scaring off one partner? If so how can we slow the communication train down so that we can have some space to breath. I am a firm believer that a lot of people are doing this right now and not even realising it.

But how exactly would you bring that up to someone you like?

20 years ago, the only thing you could get ahold of some on was a LAN line telephone. Now we have four or five different methods. Thanks a lot everyone..

Cheers
Carl

Phone conversation is the best way to go... text messages are irritating to a woman esp if you send a lot of them... email is OK but not everyone is on the internet all the time... the best way to talk is on the phone but not a whole bunch... the best thing is to call probably once a week... if she calls you then great but you want to give less... let her call you... but you can call at least once a week and a woman won't see that as smothering... let me tell you if you call everyday things can get real ugly real fast trust me I'm speaking from experience I HATE for a guy that I just met to bug me on a day to day basis... if I'm really into a guy then I won't mind... but you never know if a woman is truly into you or she's just interested...

I advise no texting to a woman - most woman HATE IT!

Call. Most woman want to hear your voice.

Return her e-mails. Don't e-mail her. Maybe 1 or 2 e-mails a month from you at MOST.

I turned off a woman over too much communication.

You don't ever want to spend hours on the phone with a gal. I advise no more than 5 to 10 minutes at most. You turn into Girl Friend mode. You spend endingless hours on the phone and you go into the friend zone.

lickemlolly - is totally right - 100% - once or twice a week for at least a couple months. You need to see if she is into you. No. more.

It's hard to do - but, thin kabout it - do you want lose turn her off?

Woman think differently - smothering KILLS!

Let me reitterate that NO TEXT MESSAGES omg women hate them its fine to receive but to send they are so damn annoying to get 3 or 4 times a day.. esp back to back... oh it's the worst... never push a rship the more you push the further a person will grow... FAST

You mean the more you push - they farther the person will pull back? Right.

The first few months you need to take things easy. No prsure. No bumb relationship questions.

Call a gal - but maybe 1 or 2 times a week. She'll call you if she is into you.

I don't think there's a "right or wrong" way to communicate with a woman, and vice versa. It's really a personal choice.

I myself LOVED talking to my boyfriend daily and sometimes for hours, without feeling smothered or overwhelmed. That's how we got to know each other and I loved it. Obviously, we preferred the face-to-face communications but that was not always possible, so we took what we could get. I was not bothered when HE emailed me at all, I actually looked forward to them, they were sooooooooo sweet!! As for the text messages, GUILTY AGAIN, I’m the one that goes over my text minutes texting him!! LOL
We've been living together for 7 years now so he did something right! :)

So again, it depends on the woman. We are all different and should be treated differently. What worked for your neighbor won't necessarily work for you! Ask her directly if she likes to talk on the phone/email/text, etc and go from there. If she tells you she hates to be smothered, then don’t be. Try not to make a HUGE deal out of nothing.

Classygrl

I agree - my current gal hates text messaging - and that's what I might go by.

But I know a lot of other woman hate it as well.

I met a guy last summer who texted me 5 times the next day! GOODBYE! Mostly because he came on WAY too strong, and also because he didn't call. It made me feel like he didn't want to spend his minutes on me or something. It was cheesy. This went on for a few days with zero phonecalls, and then I just texted him that I was seeing someone else. But that's my only experience with texting. Most guys call, which is fine IF they leave a message and IF the message is not "hey what's up call me."

Wow 5 times? Yuck AND the next day? I'd like to go smack that guy. And he never tried to call?

I never text someone unless I know them.

You got to CALL the girl and wait a couple days.

If I ever leave a message I always try and remember something to bust on the gal - and they always call back - try and make them laugh.

Its one thing if a woman enjoys talking everday but the problem is she will most likely never tell you that she doesn't till its too late... so if she calls you more than great but for now less is better...

I agree 1000% - she will NEVRE tell you.

Well I told the 5 texts in a day guy. I said, back off you're coming on way too strong. But he kept it up. Too bad. I'm going to see him at a party in August and I'm kind of dreading it. :o

Wow - you even told him how to act and he was clueless. Was a geek? Or 'Nice Guy'?

I never bothered to find out if he's 'nice.' But he definitely isn't a geek. Just too much too soon. Yikes.